My DH is one of the kindest and generous men that I know. He works hard and makes sacrifices for his family, like driving cars into the ground rather than buying a new one! He keeps a really clean and neat home. He has held jobs since high school.

When we dated, we talked about how we both put ourselves through college even though he did not really have to because his Father is a Physician and his parents had saved for his education. He went out and bought his own cars as a teenager and young adult, etc. When he proposed, he said that he thought we were really similar.

I guess I expected that would be the way he is raising his kids. No way...SS19, SD17 and SD 15 do not lift a finger around our house, the oldest does not work, the middle one works one day a week, and they all take money from him constantly. The kids drive his car, do not think anything of leaving him stranded if I am somewhere with my car, and return with an empty gas tank. It is a nasty fight every morning to get the kids to get out of bed and go to school on time.

Meanwhile, the kids complain constantly, want to go to counseling because they are depressed, and really talk to him so disrepectfully it breaks my heart.

I feel that if they did more, tried harder, and accomplished more, they would not have as severe depression issues. I know everyone will say that my husband allows this and that is why. To his defense, I think he is exhausted.

I am just venting...