I am the mother of five and the step mother of two. The biological mother of the two children, ages 15 and 17, is mentlly ill and has done her best to alienate those children from their father, their siblings and myself. She has badgered those children to question their fathers love and devotion to them. Convincing them our own children mean they are not needed, wanted or loved. The years have been painful and long. A few years ago my step son molested two of my children. His mother told him it was normal to explore because she did not want him to feel bad about himself and due to him being one month under the legal age CPS could not force her to seek treatment for him. We lived the past several years on high alert. Educating our boys about resisting and handling inapproiate behavior and advances. We had very strict measures and rules within our home anytime he visited.

About a year ago the mother could no longer handle the daughter. She was verbally abusive and physically aggressive. She threw her out so we took her in. We immediately seeked out counseling and it appeared she had mutiple mental disorders. The biological mother still constantly sabotoged us every chance she had. Make live at our home near unbearable.

Then the step son moved in. We shuffled our kids around so he could have a room of his own and made it a rule that he could not be with any of the younger chilren alone. As much as we watched he still found a way to make a second attempt at molesting our three year old. We called CPS to force him into services because our three year old would not talk to an officer wearing a pistol nothing happened. But we made it a condition for counseling if he wished to stay in our home, put an alarm on his bedroom door,would not allow him to be out of adult eyesite. It was stressful and like living in prison. But we were determined to get him the help he needed years ago.

Things got to the point of being unbearable. Ending with both step children surrounding me like a pack of dogs. Daring me to speak to either of them or else. Dad arrived and when he saw what was going on ordered each of them to their rooms. The daughter went but not without word. The son decided to face of with dad and body checked him as he walked by. When dad turned to grab him my step son drew a fist. Dad bear hugged him, he resisted and fought and down to the ground they went.

He was held until he agreed to calm down and head to his room. When he got to his room he called his mom and told her his dad had beaten him to a bloody pulp. So ten minutes later the police are at our door. The seperate everyone and stories all match. So dad's hand is shaken and told keep up the good parenting.

Step daughter was livid, she wanted dad in jail. She even came out of her room and went down the driveway to were dad was talking to the police. She demands to know what they are talking about and what action is going to be taken. The police tell her to stop the attitude and get back to her room and if they get called back she will be going to jail.

Step daughter has a history of running away and making stories of abuse up. Did it many years while living with her mom regarding her step dad. So that night things are calm, step son has come out apologized and step daughter remians in her room because she refuses to comply with house rules.

Sometime that evening she convinces her brother to slip out of the house with her. They hide out for the night and their mom sneaks into town the next day and takes them to her house.

A few days later we tell theri mom they need to return and face the consequneces of their actions. She produces pictures of the daughter with a perfect red circular mark on her forehead. They claim dad punched her. The mom tell dad they never want to see him again and want a restraining order against him.

Dad says don't bother, if it is moms wish to continue to support negativity and their wish to make false acqusations against their father to avoid consequences then they have made their decision. Keeping in mind at a later time in life we are open to them approaching us.

Part of me feels quilty but relieved. I hate giving up but I feel at this time we have younger kids we need to protect. We also told them they cannot be in our home unless they are actviley in treatment and to date the mom and step dad feel they are better judges then us.

Is it wrong to be happy they are gone and wishing I never have to see them again? Is it wrong that we are not insisting to see them?

This is just a small touch of the things we have dealt with over the years. But sadly to say, as long as their mom has such a huge influence on them their is no place for us in their hateful life.