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*facepalm*

SMof2Girls's picture

BM has been refusing to provide copies of birth certificates, medical records, social security cards, and daycare registration documentation for several weeks now.

The CO clearly states she is required to provide these things to DH upon his request (we know that immediate response is not reasonable, and DH has given her ample notice and timeframes for when he need these documents).

She continues to refuse. So he sends her a very firm email citing the CO section that specifically addresses this issue. She replies telling him that any requests he has can be brought up in mediation (scheduled for June 15th).

He explained that mediation is reserved for addressing changes or problems, not as a crutch or excuse to disregard the current CO.

She replied with, "in exchange for the requested documents, I am requesting that you send me copies of all pictures you have of the girls and promise to send me a minimum of 2 pictures per day while the girls are in your care"

Really?

*facepalm*

SMof2Girls's picture

DH ended the conversation with "You have until tomorrow at 5pm to provide the requested documents or I will contact my lawyer and file contempt charges."

We get the girls tomorrow at 5pm anyway, so it would be a natural point of exchange.

She responded with several variations of "Don't threaten me with court just because you're not getting your way" .. blah blah blah. He is no longer responding to the crazy.

SMof2Girls's picture

Paperwork is ready to go, he's already spoken to the lawyer. I suspect he will set this into motion this afternoon if the harrassing texts continue.

oneoffour's picture

Of course this is how it is worded in the parenting plan ... BM can do anything she wants and DF can only oblige to fulfill her wishes... BAER :jawdrop:

BSgoinon's picture

Wow. This woman is insane. Two pictures a day while the kids are in his care?? Puh-lease.

SMof2Girls's picture

Keep in mind, he currently only gets them 8-10 days a month. Apparently it is HIS problem that she doesn't use a camera to take pictures.

3familiesIn1's picture

Take 2 photos of the kids in her driveway then ask her if she wants them now or can she just view them right then and there.....

How stupid.

SMof2Girls's picture

I have created a folder on my computer and started dropping photos in there as I come across them. You know, pictures I'm sure she'll love .. me & the kids, kids & DH, kids & me & DH, kids & my family, etc. }:)

instantfamily's picture

Love this, just keep sending happy SM and skids pics ONLY. Muahahahaha! Stupid BM requests are always fun to find a way to thwart.

doll faced sm's picture

I'd just contact the ss admin., state records, and dr. offices myself. Less drama = happier me. Besides, seems in this situation it would actually be the faster option.

SMof2Girls's picture

Yup that's what he's been doing. Unfortunately, it's not always faster. The girls were born in a different state, so the process to order and receive official birth certificates takes several weeks. And we can't get SS cards without birth certs. Etc etc etc.

But he's working on it. It doesn't change the fact she's supposed to provide this stuff though.

She has also lied to him, in writing, regarding their medical records (stating their physicals were current when they aren't); so he only deals directly with the doctor regarding those things from now on anyway.

realitycheckmom's picture

I have to agree with everyone saying get them yourself. FDH asked his mom for his son's birth certificate and social security card and she gave him photocopies and claimed not to have the originals. Ok whatever. We are still moving forward even though she did this trying to stall us.

SMof2Girls's picture

Oh we are .. it's just time consuming and thought we could address a daycare request quicker if she would comply. That's really the only reason DH even asked her in the first place.

I posted because I thought her picture request reply was just amusing Smile

momagainfor4's picture

hhmm, I bet the judge would love that.. since when does she get to amend the CO?
She sounds like a complete dumbass!!

SMof2Girls's picture

I can't wait for the day when she stands in front of the judge and tries to explain why she does the things she does.

If only they allowed video cameras in the courtroom }:)

Orange County Ca's picture

Many seperated parents have to be taught the power of the courts. Once the judge told my ex she could see the inside of a jail she became a believer. Just do it.

Helena.Handbasket's picture

"send me a minimum of 2 pictures per day while the girls are in your care"

She didn't say send me 2 pictures OF the girls per day, she just said two pictures a day while also asking for previous pics of the girls.

Send her one of your middle finger twice a day in different parts of your city.