partners past
I was married for 6 years when i was young then met a man who i never married was with him for over 16 years , i am now in a relationship.I never cheated whilst with either of them but over the time with my new partner have found out lots about him ,he has been married twice both ended up in divorce under 3 years for both . He had an affair when he was with wife 1 and and think he was on the rebound with wife no 2 and before he was divorced met with alot of women , then we started talking met formed a relationship he now lives with me bar every other weekend when he has his girls,So far in our relationship ive had messages from wife no 2 saying he is a liar a cheater and trawls the net for women , then 2 ex gf sending him messages wanting to meet up with him theeses messages he told me about he even admits he was a player but isnt that way any more . He met a woman on hols just before he met me slept with her but told me he just had needs and didnt love her i found this out via an e mail out of the blue, he also met 2 other women on his hols 1 he tryed to woo flirted with even when we were together at the start , this women told me she never new of me as my partner did not tell her about me untill 3 months into our relationship. I have never lied to him or cheated i have nothing to hide he has my password to all my accounts think that was me trying to prove im not a liar i couldent lie if i tryed but the thing is i did no his password to an account not that when he is with me reads his e mails , this one time i tryed to log in to his e mail found out he changed his password i didnt want to snoop just to make sure that one of his ex gf hasent sent him a message to meet i am open with him told him of my past and how much i hate men who lie he says he will never lie or hurt me and he is ashamed of his past but even to this day keep getting messages or find out via other means what he was like do men change, he never lets his phone out of his sight mine i say if he needs to use it he can i love him but dont like the way he was in his past and now wonder if he will be the same with me
The evidence is before you.
The evidence is before you. If you decide to proceed with this doomed relationship, you have no one to blame but yourself. He's a smooth talking player. He is measured by his conquests and the trail of destruction he leaves behind and so enjoys that trail. Every single time one of these fools knocks, texts, calls or beckons, he is reminded of HIS power over them. He gets off on this and will continue to do so. When you are no longer mesmerised by his power, he will move on to dumber pastures.
Btw, his "past" is not in the
Btw, his "past" is not in the past at all. It's alive and well.
EXACTLY! I can almost
EXACTLY! I can almost guarantee you that unless the power of something like GOD wakes him up...his relationship with you will mirror his past relationships...if anything, he probably just learned more tricks to keep from getting caught. When a man is protective of his cell phone...that is a HUGE red flag.
He sounds like a sex addict.
He sounds like a sex addict. I would run. Once an addict, always an addict. They traumatize their spouses and turn them into selfless doormats so they can get away with their evilness. Not only run, but run FAST!
I agree! Run now before your
I agree! Run now before your heart is broken more by this man. Sounds like he is fooling around already.
If ALL you knew was this: "He
If ALL you knew was this: "He met a woman on hols just before he met me slept with her but told me he just had needs" that would be all you need to know.
1. He sleeps with random women
2. He will sleep with a random woman if you don't put out on any given night.
I speak from experience...RUN RUN RUN. Do not believe his lies. Men like him are con men. Your life will be in the gutter before you know it.
if he's changed the password
if he's changed the password to his email and keeps his phone to himself then I'd change all my passwords NOW and get him out of my life. he's not helping you trust him and he's just giving you lip service. you don't trust him so what sort of future do you really have with him? and honestly, i don't think he's giving you any reason to. just my opinion.
The best predictor of a
The best predictor of a persons future behavior is past behavior.