Doesn't really bother me. SO's 2 ex-wives still use his last time. I have been divorced for 14 years and still go by ex's last name. My kids were really young and the ex asked me to keep his name for the sake of the kids so I did. Now it would be a hassle to change it. If SO and I get married I will go back to my maiden name.

I think once you get divorced you should have to change your name back. My DH and his ex have been divorced for 13 yrs and she has 2 more kids with some guy. She lost custody of SD to DH when SD was about 8 yrs old. When I married DH he said he thought BM changed her name back so I thought nothing of it. Just recently I see her on facebook with our last name! DH was livid!! It is so embarrassing!!

DH and BM graduated from the same high school so people are gonna see her last name and think they are married. And she is so ugly and so white trash!! I don't understand why she doesn't change her name back to her maiden name because the other 2 kids she had have her maiden name because of course she wasn't sure who the fathers were.

I understand you want the same last name of your child but I don't think its fair. When I got divorced I changed my name back.

He thinks the reason she kept it was because she kept getting credit card offers in the mail addressed to both of them and she kept filling them out and getting joint cards because she had the same last name. A judge took care of that!

I hate that bm kept my dh's last name. I hate even more the fact that the kid she's had to father unknown since me and dh got married has also got my dh's last name. Her justification for this is that she kept dh's last name so it was the same as the skids, and that she wants the new brat to have the same name as her and his half brothers. I find that ridiculous and unfair, it will confuse the kid when it gets older and I hope there aren't people around who automatically think that my dh is the father of her new kid because it has his name. To make things worse we have tried to have our own child with no success, yet she just goes and produces one who has nothing to do with dh and doesn't deserve his last name and thinks it's okay to disrespect us like that. I feel bad enough not being able to get pregnant without her parading her brat about with my dh's name and I really despise her for it.

Is it not in their divorce decree? Because it was in my DHs divorce decree, although crazy continued to use his last name for years...probably to get credit under his name, etc...we'll get to that at some point...lol But anyway, he finally told her that if she did not change it, he would take iher to court as she had NOT followed to court order. As far as I know, she has changed it. Actually, I think the witch has two last names and two social security numbers, but that's a different story lol

I kept my ex's last name after the divorce why because I had it as long as I had my maiden name and it's my children's last name. I didn't keep it out of spite, convience yes, my kids yes, and any women he may later marry is just gonna have to deal he's my ex I'm his. I have corrected people since the divorce I'm NOT Mrs. I'm Ms. Besides the fact he has a ton of family so there are many women with that last name. Just as there are billions of Mrs. Smiths or Jones. Even if I ever remarry I'll probably hyphenate my name and I'd do it solely because I like having the same surname as my children, aren't men a little hurt if their names don't go to their children? Don't let it get to you, you get to put the MRS. in it you get to be HIS WIFE not his ex. Wear the Mrs. proudly! (and a little side not my SO got called Mr. mylastnmae at the bank I expected him to be upset he thought it was funny that there are so many of us they don't know who is or isn't Mr. Mrs. or Ms related/married/divorced around here)

I didn't keep exH name. My mom and dad were married 39 yrs and had 4 kids when they divorced my mom keep my dads last name. So for me I'd say it depends on how long they were married. Anything less than 10 yrs I say change it. My MIL keep exh name that she had kids with. MIL been married 5 times. And each time she went back to name with kids. I have a SMIL to. So it goes like this at my daughters wedding. This is my MIL Ms. Brown and my other MIL Mrs. Brown. LOL. I hate the word step anything because most people automatically think evil. I'd rather say this is my other mother or something. I love my sMIL and just can't see calling her that.

I didnt change my last name after my divorce bc of all the hassle (new driver license, doctor files, bank acct, checks, credit card, social security card...). I dont use the last name vindictivly. I just use it. If I ever get married again I'd go with the new husbands though.

I didn't change my name because I have minor kids, and will keep my married name until they are grown or I remarry. My bf's ex changed her last name IMMEDIATELY and even planned on having THEIR children's names changed because she thought she would get rid of him and have the ability to do it (can't, obviously as long as he's still around). Now that she has a different last name from the kids, it is weird for the kids. But it has worked against her. Their son has referred to their divorce (back in court for her stupid games) as a war, and it's "his last name" vs "her last name." When bf asked which side he was on, he said, "his last name." Her parents (with her last name) are her only allies because she has filled their heads with so much crap, and they are the ones funding the court mess for her. How does it look to a pre-teen son that his mom didn't even want to share his last name?

I have literally been divorced 1 week. In Australia you dont need it to be in the divorce papers, the divorce is not official until one month and one day after your court date and they send you a certificate which you can then use to change your name back. At this point in time I dont think I will change it back as I have 2 BS's. Does this then present a small dilema?? if I ever get remarried, would I take his last name?? It means a different last name from my boys but I am pretty sure any SO wouldnt appreciate their wife using their XH's name instead of taking their name........

It's a last name, I can see why people might get upset but it's just a last name and it is her choice. They were married and have kids together it is her last anem if she wants it. My dh's and his ex were never married but the schools and other parents call her by our last name because that is the last name of her children. Also having friends who grew up in divorced households i know many children find it desterbing to have a differnt last name as their parents. When i got remarried i changed my name my ds is still upset and confused by this.

Like i said it is just name, that doesnt mean she is pretending to be married to kim anymore.

I have another friend who did not change her name back after the divorce. When i asked her why she said she never felt like a (maiden name). She was astranged from her father. I think there is more to this than wanted to f with your ex.

Also i totally can see why someone would give another the same name as the other kids if she isnt with the new dad. She is probibly thinking of the new baby's future as long as she isnt pretending dh is the dad its probibly not about you guys. I can understand being pissed but remember there is a child involed. She is problbly protecting this new baby from gossip and questioning in the future.

FDH's ex kept his last name out of spite (she has addmitted up to this). She is now married again and still has his last name we well as the last name of her new husband.

Before she got married she used to sign FSD's home work FDH and EX Jones like they were still married. She'sa nut job. I wonder what will happen when she gets divorced from her current husband? What name will she choose?

I think it depends on how long you are married......I really do. My mother and my MIL where married over 20 years. Of course they kept the last name. But DH and BM had their marriage annulled! She kept is name....ugh!! She said it was because SD had the name......Meanwhile 2 years later she got remarried and now SD lives w/ us. To each their own. I wouldn't let it get to you......I swear they do it just to piss us off!! }:)

Why let this bother you? Anyone can change their last name any time by submitting papers to the court. It is not a hard process but it is a PIA to keep changing your name. Who cares in the scheme of things what the BM's last name is?

My DH's ex kept his last name after their divorce.

They were married for 10 years.

She got remarried last October.

She is still using my DH's last name.