BM is an idiot
This past weekend my bf's D6 came and apparently has eczema. I actually sell natural baby products that were made for babies with eczema. So we used some of my lotion on her and I sent a bottle of baby wash home with her so she could use it to wash her hands. This stuff is literally made with about 5 ingredients, unscented, etc. and meant for babies. When bf got his kids today, both girls told him that BM told them that the soap had something that the D6 could not use. I know for a fact that this is not true. She just can't stand that he would be involved in doing something for her that she could not. So he sent her an email asking her what the ingredient was, because it was important that he know this stuff so he would not use the wrong thing on her (otherwise, it would be BM's fault if he did because she didn't notify him) LOL
Even worse... he went to D8's Dr. appt this afternoon and got there early. BM arrived quite late. The appt. was only about 15 mins. long. Since he was supposed to have them 5-8 and it was already almost 4:30, the kids asked if they could just go with him from the Dr's office. NOPE. She fed them some bs about him having to pick them up from their house (he does all the driving, which he is working on changing). This required him to drive 30 mins. PAST his apartment, when they were already in his town for the Dr's appt. So he gets there at 5 and...SHE IS LATE!! Uggggghhhhh! Funny thing is, while he was waiting for them to arrive, he got a call from their mediator. He had a nice little conversation with her. He has been waiting for almost a year to get his visitation orders enforced when she was impeding them last year, and it's turning out to be a good thing because it provides more chances for her to show what a bitch she is! 
Unfortunately, it is only hurting the kids because they are all old enough to see what she is doing. For their sake I just wish she would grow up!
What are some stupid things your skids' BMs do?
I know of someone who was
I know of someone who was having major issues with the bilogical father of her children when the kids were at a tender age. You know what happened? After having a whole lot of crap spun in their ears about their mother they grew up realising what a dipshit their father really was and actually thanked their mother for being the mature one! Kids can be pretty cool like that. Good Luck!
Lets see, the BM I have to
Lets see, the BM I have to deal with...
Let's start with the fact that for the year and a half I have been with my Boyfriend, the woman has been homeless on numerous occasions and "lived" in no less than 12 different residences, mostly the couches of friends that would let her crash for a short time with them. During this time, between August 2009 and August 2010 there is a grand total of 7 months she didn't see her son at all: 6 weeks starting with when she spent 3 weeks in Texas visiting her grandmother and then didn't bother to call for 3 weeks once she got back (and even then it was a visit at a park where the kid was afraid of her because BM's electricity had been shut off), another 6 weeks starting when she was evicted from her apartment where she never got the electricity back on and Christmas Eve where she showed up, unannounced, when it was just me and the kid while his dad was at work for a short shift, and then 4 months starting when she entered a homeless halfway program and basically demanded to have the child for 2 weeks at a time at an address she refused to disclose and he would only allow her to spend days with him, so she said "Fine, I won't see him if it isn't my way."
On no less than 2 occasions she has tried to seduce him via text messaging (which he showed me and even had me help in coming up with very neutral responses to give her as much rope as possible to hang herself with), and made 2 passes at him physically, one of them with me in the car waiting for him. Oh yeah, that one was awesome. She was all dressed up, make up on, and hair done and the kid was wearing a diaper and filthy. We got there at the usual time to pick him up and she tries to get my boyfriend, her ex, to come inside. When that didn't work she tried to hug him. When he backed off and the kid came running up to say hi to his Daddy, he picked up the kid so that she couldn't make more advances. She flew into a rage when he again said he would not be going into the apartment and if she had something to tell him, she should just tell him. Cops had to be called when she refused to give back all the kid's meds (he was getting over Fifth's Disease) and the thermometer that was not hers to keep. Initially she told the cops things like "he's a deadbeat dad, not paying his child support. He isn't supposed to have the kid like that at all. The thermometer is mine, I bought it yesterday." One of the cops smelled a rat though and pressed the issue after talking with my BF who goes "give me access to a computer and I can show you all the emails to say that's all false. Also, I don't pay child support because it hasn't been court ordered yet, we are still in a custody dispute, and the child lives with me." She eventually fessed up to lying, gave back the stuff and we left.
Most recently, she has decided the child support SHE has been ordered to pay is "illegal" and that my boyfriend "owes her child support back to when the child was born and he signed the birth certificate." Nevermind that at the time the child was born, they were living together and she was not working, at all. Paperwork is going to be filed next week declaring she is not paying her child support and I am sure we'll get some crazy phone calls when she gets notified that her drivers license and car registration have been revoked.
Storybookgirl, at least he
Storybookgirl, at least he HAS him. I just WISH my bf's ex would go homeless so my bf could get his kids. But that will never happen because he pays his child support and she has parents with money that she is WAY too attached to. They would never let that happen. It looks like things are probably going to go my bf's way when they finally get everything settled. Not that the issues will ever end. We know that in the end, she will look like the bad guy in the kids' eyes, but day to day it's not fun dealing with her issues!
my.kids.mom, Believe me. I
my.kids.mom, Believe me. I understand. Yeah, my guy has custody of his kid but it took nearly a year and a half of custody battle to finalize, with him paying a grand total of nearly $20,000 to his lawyer. Part of the reason it was so long is this county has the most ASININE process for custody cases where you basically run around in a bunch of circles before they finally go "fine, let's talk." The BM is so unstable she couldn't even keep her cat, much less a kid. And since the court case, she's done nothing but fight every little detail in the documents from visitation to refusing to pay her child support. She currently owes $1800 total, and on the first, it will go up by another $530.
Yeah, it sucks. But you know what? My boyfriend asked me one day recently why I bother to stick around with all this bs going on. All I could tell him was that I love him and think he's worth more on a day to day basis, than the drama one crazy bitch can throw. As long as we stick together, talk it out, and face things head on, we'll be fine. I truly believe that. Besides, we're the ones with steady jobs with benefits and futures. She's living in a halfway house with a part time job because she refuses to get a full time or a second part time one. She'll never have anything on us.
I'm pretty sure the court
I'm pretty sure the court system is like that everywhere. I've never heard of a good one. What's really scary is that there are cases like his where the kids are really being harmed by unstable parents or parents who can't provide, that need to be fast-tracked through the system. My bf is going through similar crap with the courts. It's a mess. While the bm is batty, there aren't concerns about their living conditions, being fed, etc...it's all psychological, which takes forever to prove. He just fighting to have his original orders enforced, and she reacted with false accusations, trying to get supervised visitation, etc. and it is backfiring on her because it looks like the kids' counselor (who has since become HER counselor) is seeing she is off, seeing what she is doing to the kids; and chances are her attorney will quit on her before it's over like the others have in the past. All I can tell my bf is to keep doing the right thing, because he will win in the end if he does. I have to admit, there are days when it's hard being the gf in these situations. Some days, it sucks!
my.kids.mom, yeah, it does
my.kids.mom, yeah, it does suck sometimes. I just keep telling myself, though, that the more power I give her to be a nuisance in my life when she isn't around, the more she wins. So we deal with her drama bullshit, do what we have to to counteract it, and then we move on, because life is too short to talk it to death and dwell on the fact that she's nuts and isn't going to change.