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Submitted by Helpless0987 on Sat, 10/22/2011 - 9:19am

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So Out of the 2 skids DH and mil have a clear favorite ( the one with the worst behavior to) ss10. Example of this weekend so far he gets here by 6: has allready gotten a $50 ps3 game, new cd, LAPTOP ( granted it was used but not the point) $85 halloween costume and it's only sat. Morning!!!! Now what has been done for ss15- NOTHING! It pisses me off so bad! I feel so bad for ss15 and understand why he acts the way he does and why it's so hard for him to get along with his brother. The last weekend ss10 was here he got a $90 psp, $150 sneakers and new sweatshirts and again nothing for ss15! Everytime we go anywhere we have to have "extra money" so ss10 can get something- sends me thru the roof, he's such a lying little brat and doesn't deserve anything. Ss10 terrible report card, ss15 all 80 and above and I'm the only one who congratulated him so I re-did his bedroom for him as a surprise, now ss10 can't have that so DH and mil have to top it!!!! Cause they don't want to listen to him bitch about ss15 getting something. Everything ss15 has or does they have to make sure they do 1 better for ss10, poor kid is constantly getting shafted. They will buy ss10 sports stuff brand-new top of the line every year and make ss15 wear old or used. It pisses me off so bad, if they do something for ss15 they make sure they do it for ss10 but never the other way around, no wonder the kid is always pissed he gets treated like shit and he's the better kid! Maybe I do favor ss15 now mostly because of all this but dammit the kid needs someone on his side! Just a minor vent Wink

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Submitted by NotGoingGood on Sat, 10/22/2011 - 3:40pm

I would just continue to try to make the older one feel loved! If it's that obvious they are being treated differently, I would try to talk to mil and DH about it. Maybe write down a list of the differences and point them out to them?

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Submitted by 12yrstepmonster on Sat, 10/22/2011 - 3:46pm

I agree with not going good. I think I would push Dh into seeing the difference in treatment. EVERYTIME the 10yr old gets something I would say ummmm. What about SS15?

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Submitted by giveitago on Mon, 10/24/2011 - 6:47am

I'd have to speak up too! I'd be telling them that there's a price to pay for neglecting the older one...I would not go tit for tat with reactions, that's a bit shallow of them.
I think I'd be developing hobbies interests with SS15 and spending time with with him too...stuff that money CANNOT buy...way more valuable in the long term, don't you think? The boy is lucky to have you, by the way.
When DH is spending all his time, money and recourses, retrieving the boy from juvenile hall you can disengage. When SS 10 gets older he'll have a hell of a struggle in society, whereas SS15 will be better equipped by your love and attention. Show him how to work a budget, do his own laundry and generally VALUE independance. Good luck.