SD11 has a habit of taking things that are not hers and leaving them in her bedroom. Nail polish is the most frequent offense...and things like tape, scissors and flash lights.

I needed a beach towel and couldn't find one anywhere so I checked SD's room...she had three...no wonder there weren't any clean ones. Then I found two nail polishes that weren't hers hidden in her cabinet (I leave them in a bucket in my closet for her to use any time she wants...it is a community bucket. However, she keeps "hers" where only she can use it and steals some of "ours" from time to time). Then I find a spot light she isn't even allowed to use, orange tape to flag an electric fence (what would she need that for?), my lotion that she is allowed to use any time she wants (but NOT leave in her room), tape, 2 articles of clothing that I had just asked if she had (they were WAY too small for her and I was putting the small clothes away) and TWO OF MY CD's! She took my CDs out of their case and hid them in her room! That makes me irate! I am trying to make her dad handle things so I just told him that I expect her to be punished in a way that makes me feel he understands she shouldn't be taking my things without permission and leaving them in her room. She is already grounded for rebellion for three months so I don't know what her punishment will be...he says he yelled at her...should that be enough? I feel like SD gets her "own" things but anything that is "mine" is viewed as community property.

I talked to a friend (that doesn't have steps) and she laughed at me like I was an idiot to be upset about this. Am I being unreasonable? If my BD took my CDs without asking, I would be upset with her, too. I paid a lot of money for my CD collection...she wasn't "borrowing" it...she took it to keep as hers.