We go through drama constantly with this women. This is our second summer in court fighting for my fiance's daughter because BM is trying to move her out of state. We have 50/50 custody and we are willing to take our SD full-time if BM really wants to leave.

Our newest encounter would be her calling and telling us she isn't going to meet us to bring SD to our usual meeting spot. She said we could call the cops is need be. (Just to start drama) My Fiance said he would call that cops if that was what needed to happen. He also told her he wanted to forward her new husband messages she had sent my Fiance. Last week, she texted my fiance saying she would divorce her new husband if he thought there might be a chance they could ever be a family. (They were never married and broke up when the baby was 1) BM got married for a month, got a divorce, and now is re-married to a military man who she tells us daily WILL BE her daughter's new Father)

Anyway, back to the story, she freaked out that he wanted to forward her new husband those messages and called the police saying we were harrassing her and would not stop calling her. (My Fiance called her once because she texted him saying his daughter wanted to talk to her) And my fiance had 13 missed calls from this women. The police called and said if she texted him or he texted her, we needed to call and file a report.

Not 13 hours later, the BM is calling saying "Hey, do you think I could keep her for a few more days. We have plans" 1. the police told you not to text him and 2. why would we go out of our way to do you a favor when you're filing harassment charges and trying to take her away.

Anyways. We said "No" and that we wanted our time to spend with her... So we go to pick her up and guess what.....BM chopped her beautiful LONG hair!!! I wanted to cry. I know she was doing it to be hateful because every other time she calls and discusses hair issues with my Fiance. He really wants it to stay long. But she didn't even call! And our SD didn't mention a word of it. We have family pictures next weekend and I am so sad.

This isn't even half the stuff I have to deal with this women. This is just me venting.

The hair was just the final straw after 72 hours of dealing with the police.

Thank you!! Just need someone to talk to about it all. Keeping it built up inside isn't working!!

I feel helpless though as I am JUST the fiance (Not actually married yet) So I can't do much. My Fiance has to do it and I feel like if I push him to do anything he will resent me.

With this court case, I told him he needed to get her school records (We got a call last year saying she missed 12 days of school in the first 3 months. Thats 1 1/2 days a week!!) She goes to school by her mom's house and during school we only have her every other weekend. And he hasn't called! I can't call! I am just so hopeless. We are in the middle of losing her and he is dragging his feet. We don't have time to drag our feet. He thinks theres no way the judge will let her move away since she couldn't move away last year. But my motto, every bit helps!

Frustrated!

Thank you all for all the overwhelming responses! I think you will all save my life!! I am going to sit with my Fiance and discuss all the things that are bothering me but I am so at loss for words!!

The BM will pull stunts like calling the cops saying we are harassing her (She called us 19 in 25 minutes. When we didn't answer. She texted us saying "Your daughter is trying to talk to you" So we call back and her daughter all the sudden is "Busy!") Not sure how that is harassing her!! And now she keeps calling today saying "I just want to pick her up and take her to lunch" WHY THE HELL WOULD WE HELP YOU OUT?!?!?

My Biggest problem...after she pulls this sh*t my FH calls and says "Do you think it is a good idea if I let her go?" Ummmm.....were you not involved with the same police case as I was this weekend?!

She starts school the second week in August and we are supposed to have her the last week before school. The BM calls and says "You aren't getting her your last week because I am taking her school shopping." I am pretty sure that is NOT her decision and it is written out clearly in our custody agreement.

My FH is such a sweet man and would rather roll over all the drama, rather than make matters worse. She called months back and asked if she could pick up her daughter (On our time) and take her to Target and out to Lunch. We agreed, this was before it got messy. When I asked my FH what time she would be back home, his response was "The BM said she will be back whenever she's ready to have her back." EXCUSE ME?! This is OUR time and if we are going to be flexible enough to let her take her on our time, she will return her when we say. I am so frustrated that he lets her get away with that!

My other pet peeve!! As a courtesy to the BM (At this point, dont ask me why we do anything to be nice) We have her daughter call her EVERY night before bed. (She is 7 and a relationship with her mom is important to us) When our daughter gets off the phone, she will be crying her eyes out to go home. When we ask her what is wrong, she replies "My mommy said she is going to Disneyland tomorrow and Daddy won't let me go" or "My mommy says she is going to see my cousins tomorrow and I won't get to see them for a year because I am at Daddy's" ALWAYS making it look like we are the bad parents because we WONT let her go. Let me remind you, this women has NO job!

Ugh....

Thank you!! I am going to run it by him later. See what he thinks. Try it for a bit and see how it goes. He knows I am in so much pain right now, he might try anything! Thank you alll for your help!!

Gosh, I love this site! Thank you so much for all your input and ideas. Going through this is dreadful but having people who have dealt with it before give you some advice and tips is an amazing feeling! Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!