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Submitted by jazzvaughn on Thu, 06/16/2011 - 7:40pm

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Blended Family Issues

My boyfriend's son has a baseball game... I'm coming into town for like 3 weeks and his son plays baseball on Saturday mornings. My boyfriend says he's not comfortable bringing me around his ex wife yet so he's not taking me to the games. I'll be at his house. We have been dating for 2 years (in August). I've met his son several times... always is around him... He says the ex wife knows about me... But he's just not comfortable with the big, happy family thing yet. That makes 3 Saturdays I'll be there waiting till after the game. I feel like maybe this is a slap in the face... I'm not happy with this but should I make a big deal about this??? What do you think?

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Submitted by twopines on Thu, 06/16/2011 - 8:12pm

Two years and you're not allowed to go to a simple baseball game...that does not sound too good.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Thu, 06/16/2011 - 9:03pm

Something isn't right. Are you sure the ex knows you are his GF and not just a female friend? How does your BF interact with you when his son is around? Do you hold hands, hug, kiss in front of his son?

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Submitted by sixteensmom on Thu, 06/16/2011 - 11:04pm

Now is the time for you to decide your future and the way bf and ss and bm will treat you. If u allow them to put u in your place at home now it won't ever change. I'd go to the game.

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Submitted by JAASY on Fri, 06/17/2011 - 4:55pm

I would further discuss this matter with you BF. It has been 2 years, you have met the son and you feel it would be appropriate to go see him play, why doesn't his father? What is his relationship with his ex? Does he not want you to go because he sits with his ex? We are not talking about you hugging her hello and becoming best buddies exchanging recipes. It is you showing support and interest in your BF's son and your BF validating your relationship and importance in his son's life.
Yes this is an issue to discuss and push further.