The only reason I mentioned he was black was to point out that we knew he was obviously not a relative. I didn't mean to sound racial because I am the least prejudice person you will probably ever meet. And no...it wouldn't have been better if he were white. It's just the fact that he was not someone we knew and he is an adult.
Now, the reason we are concerned about this strange man is because my bf's nephew said he looked like he was in his mid 20's and they were walking with each other like they were "together" and it really concerns us because she is so young and impressionable.
We read her Facebook page daily and she doesn't know this. She posted something on there about "can't wait to see you again, the other night was great, love the way you lay next to me and look into my eyes..." Needless to say, after hearing that she was with a man at the fair and now this post on her Facebook page, we are VERY worried.

She doesn't mind if I look on it. We send messages back and forth, but I don't do it every day. Maybe once or twice a month. I'll take a look at that feature you talked about.

We're not really stalking her. That sounds creepy. We are merely trying to keep up with her. There was a girl at her middle school that killed herself last year and my bf's daughter has said some things in recent months that has alarmed us to believe she is having a hard time at school. We need to know if she is having trouble and talking to her friends about it. We are just concerned.
You are right, we considered that the man at the fair could be anyone she knows and we don't. But, she is 14 and impressionable and my bf is once again, concerned because he is out of the loop on just about everything.
Read some of my other posts. BM is not really raising the kids in my opinion, but I keep my 2 cents out of it and let my bf be the judge of that since they are his kids. She lets them do whatever they want. The kids pretty much run the house over there. They eat fast food every day. The 6 year old is 100 lbs. Its not healthy, but she won't listen.

He has documented everything since the day he was forced out of the home by her. He was told to go to see a therapist about a week later and the therapist recommended writing things down to "let it all out". He documents when he calls them, when they don't answer, when they don't call back, when he sees them, when he is supposed to see them and they don't show up at the meeting spot.
I'm not sure about your joint legal question. But, I don't think he would let her have decision making all to herself. The woman is an idiot.
He actually has a text message conversation printed out that the ex was sending to him. It was awful and I'm glad he has it printed. He prints out conversations from his oldest, the 14 yr old. She also sends nasty texts telling him that she hates him and he never does anything for them. They wouldn't have a home to live in if he weren't still making the house payment. When the utilities get shut off, their mother blames it on my bf. She tells the kids that he is supposed to be paying the bills, but he's not ordered to pay the utility bills, just the house payment. Then they think he is an A-hole because they don't have running water.

Good idea

So, if we go through the divorce agreement and figure out everything that she is doing to be in contempt, would he be able to ask for a drug test to be administered to his ex? Just wondering because we know that she is abusing pain medications and has been since 1997. She used to work for a dentist and stole his rx pads and was writing her own scripts and signing the dentists name. For the dentist not to press charges, she had to go to rehab and complete the program. She continued to abuse drugs over the years and hid it from my bf when they were married. He worked a lot and she stayed home. Their 8 yr old daughter can barely see and has hearing problems too. Their 6 year old son cried all the time when he was a baby, vomited frquently and was hard to console (withdrawal symptoms). So far we haven't noticed any real developmental problems with them. She was put back into rehab in 2007 as part of a parenting plan with the divorce, but she continues to do drugs. We know this because we know the people she hangs with and they're pretty open about what they do. We don't want the kids subjected to this kind of living situation any longer. Why is this so hard to prove to the courts?

Her mother took her to have it done. Funny that the water is turned off in their home right now, but she has the money to get her daughters belly button pierced (priorities....) The younger kids are staying with their maternal grandmother (2 hours away) until the water is turned back on. Next week, she probably won't have electricity. It's an ongoing thing.