I am in a very unique situation here and not only do I need to vent, I need advice. First off let me say I DO NOT hate my stepkids, in fact I really do love them and feel very sorry for their situation. (SS28,SD26,SS15,SS11,SD8). I also have 2 Stepgrandkids (SGD4,SGS 8mons.) You will understand where they come into play as I get into my story. I myself have 2 biokids, BD24 and BGD3 mons. and BS 23. A very large family to say the least. Now on to my story. My DH is a very loving man who was married to Barzilla (BM) for 12 years. Things weren't great but they were ok for them. Until SS28 (this was her SS also) got out of prison. (first off let me say SS28 is a great guy he went in knowing what he did was stupid and came out better for it.)That is when she decided her own SS was better for her than his dad and she had an affair with him and eventually married him. (this is where the SGK come into to play).This is where I feel sorry for my SK, not only were they raised knowing my DH as thier BD, for the last 5 years she has insisted the kids call their brother dad also, and his BD4 calls both her biodad and my DH dad cause the others kids do. (and just to let you in on her personality BD4 isn't his, she was concieved through another affair, but SS28 choose to give her his name.) Confused yet? Don't worry I was too, But it only gets worse. SS28 has finally woke up and saw the light and is divorcing Barzilla, so now SS28 is living with us. That has made the true monster in her come out let me tell you. Ok now on to the vent, this woman make our lives a living hell. It all started when SS28 was still with BM. DH was going to take the kids for a few hours and then we got a phone call that my BD was having an emergency C-section at 7 months preg. in a city an hour and a half away. Well being to upset to drive, my DH was going to take me, he called SS28 and told him what had happened and he said no problem. WELL when Barzilla found out (she was out of town) she called DH and told him what an awful father he was to choose his SD having a baby, over spending time with his own kids and then she said she hoped that my GD died. Thank God she didn't. During the time we were up there waiting to find out if my BD and GD were going to survive, she would text both DH and myself saying how she is going to kick my BD and my A$$ because we are taking away her BK dad. We tried to be rational with her and explain it was an emergency and she still kept threatening us, say she was going to turn him in for abandonment on his kids and have his visitation stopped, so on and so forth. We finally started to ingore her and concentrate on my BD and BGD. That is when we first met Barzilla because she started in on a social site, threatening all of us and slandering our names. (we live in a samll town, where everyone know everything about you.) This is when SS28 realized what she truly was and left her. Well that was just fuel to the fire and she went off calling me and threatening me and saying other vile things because I let him move in here. Now we are at a point where she is trying to get him back so she sucks up to us and then when he is not around the venom comes pouring out again. It is very stressful to not know when or what she will do next. Sometimes I wonder if it is all worth it and then I look at DH with ALL the kids and know I love him to much to leave. I know this has been a long post and for that I am sorry but I had to get it out or I think I would have exploded. As for the advice, I need to know how to help the kids. They are confused and hurting and I feel so helpless as how to help. Thank you to all who take the time to read this and again I apologize for the long rant.