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Submitted by Pantera on Thu, 10/29/2009 - 8:28am

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DH is going to a contempt hearing tomorrow for child suppport. His Ex Wife owes $14,121 in child support. We really really need some money. Please keep us in your thoughts. Anyway, I am really nervous for DH because if she doesn't show up or doesn't show up with money she is supposed to go to jail. Does anyone have any experience with this? Can anyone tell me what happens at a contempt hearing for child support?

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Submitted by stepmasochist on Thu, 10/29/2009 - 10:47am

I have no idea, but I hope things turn out for you and DH.

Let us know how it goes.

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Submitted by Pantera on Thu, 10/29/2009 - 11:54am

thanks. i wrote about this in july. the first date was sept 4th but it got postponed until tomorrow. i will keep you updated.

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Submitted by I_GOT_THIS on Thu, 10/29/2009 - 12:42pm

I've gone to court with my X for his CS arrears. He was closing in on $10,000 when we went to court last for contempt. He brought $500 with him and the court let him walk out with promises to do better in the future. i haven't seen a dime more and that was almost 2 yrs ago. of course i couldn't afford an attorney either.
I wouldn't bank on anything happening to the Ex wife unless you have one kick ass attorney.
Although if she just doesn't show up that may be a different story.
Good luck!

God will forgive me. It's his job.
~~Heinrich Heine

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Submitted by Pantera on Thu, 10/29/2009 - 1:36pm

That is ridiculous. Im assuming your X hasn't done better has he? What is with the slap on the wrist? I am hoping that this doesn't happen to us, but on the other hand, $500 would help us out alot. We are really hoping for any kind of money at this point. My husband's attorney is kick ass, she knows her stuff and is very intimidating. Fortunately the attorney agreed to go to court for free because my husband has referred about 10 people to her. If it wasn't for that my DH would be going solo tomorrow. Have you ever heard of anyone being bonded (that is what DH's attorney is suggesting they do tomorrow if she shows up with less than half of the amount)? Getting put in jail and the bail money goes straight towards child support?

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Submitted by I_GOT_THIS on Thu, 10/29/2009 - 3:04pm

Yep heard of it happening to some people. of course not in my situation though.
sometimes if people don't show up they get a warant issued and have to pay a purge to get out of jail....the purge is a large amount of CS - may be the whole amount maybe part of the amount depends on the judge. and the laws are probably difference in each state....this is florida.
actually my X is now in prison for something not related to CS so again my DS goes with out (well actually i go without so DS can have) while WE provide for my XH.
CS is a sore subject in our house. i get non from my XH and DH has to pay religiously or they (CSE) send awful letters threatening to suspend his license and such.
This system is just not fair! DH complains about my XH and how he gets a slap on the wrist.
Since we can't afford an attorney not much i can do.

God will forgive me. It's his job.
~~Heinrich Heine

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Submitted by Pantera on Fri, 10/30/2009 - 7:57am

Thats horrible. And you know whats even worse...Child support services didn't push this and told my DH it was because he was a man. My DH had to go push contempt charges on his own, Maryland child support wouldn't help him. I am freaking out. The hearing is at 1:30. I will definitely keep you posted. Ex Wife called me last night and apologized for not paying, for trying to start trouble between my husband and I, and a bunch of other crap. Blah Blah Blah. I will write later.

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Submitted by Pantera on Fri, 10/30/2009 - 11:58am

I am shaking and my insides are turning. The hearing is in a half an hour. The ex wife called me last night and apologized (this is on another one of my entries), she also kept asking about DH's lawyer and said that this isn't his fault so he shouldn't have to pay to bring his lawyer. I told her he was bringing his lawyer. She said she was advised by a lawyer but wasn't bringing one. DH just called and his lawyer informed him that she is bringing a lawyer. This bitch tried to manipulate me to tell my husband not to bring his lawyer, lol!!! Why would I do that???!!! My husband's lawyer said her first point will be "How can she pay an attorney but not pay her child support"? Good Point. I can't wait until this is over. I will update again. I am just crawling out of my skin right now.

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Submitted by vgill on Fri, 10/30/2009 - 12:09pm

If she doesn't want to pay to help raise the child then she should sign away all rights as a parent and any visitation would be at your discretion!!

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Submitted by Pantera on Fri, 10/30/2009 - 1:19pm

my husband has sole custody and visitation is as he sees fit. she doesn't really do anything for ss. she doesn't pay, doesn't call, doesn't pick him up when she says she will, pops in and out of his life. the least she can do is help financially.

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Submitted by Sia on Fri, 10/30/2009 - 12:05pm

I know I am late on this one, but we have been through the same thing. BM did go to jail in our situation. Then, when she got out, 3 days later, she found a doc and a lawyer that put her on SSDI. That took the place of any future child support payments we would ever get from her. I was happy about that, b/c she really IS mentally ill and needed the help, AND the monthly check was more than we would have gotten from her sorry butt.

I know you are nervous, but turn that nervous energy into positive vibes for a good outcome! I wish you luck!

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Submitted by Pantera on Fri, 10/30/2009 - 1:23pm

You aren't late, Im still waiting to hear from my husband, lol. Thanks for the response. I am hoping they put her butt in jail not only for not paying but for the things she has done lately to us and to ss. She is a mess. Positive thinking, Positive outcome, i like it and I think I will go that route.

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Submitted by Pantera on Fri, 10/30/2009 - 2:14pm

BM didn't go to jail because DH put that he didn't want her to go to jail (changed his mind here recently). BM has to pay $1500 by January 8th and $600 a month. She has until Nov. 1st to pay the first payment. If she misses 1 payment, or isn't on time with a payment, or doesn't pay the $1500, she will go to jail on January 12th. She paid $500 today which went straight to DH. $500 whoopty doo. Hopefully she'll just start paying. I can't complain. If she does what she's supposed to, we'll get $3300 between now and Jan. 8th, and thats nothing to shrug at. DH's lawyer said we are not going to let her get past 60 days any more. Thanks for the support, I really appreciate it.

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Submitted by Pantera on Fri, 12/04/2009 - 11:26am

Update...

DH did NOT get a payment on November 1st or December 1st. BM is going to jail on January 12th whether she shows at court or not (they will put a warrant out if she doesn't show). I wish she would at least pay something, anything would help. What a deusch.

"If I turn into another, Dig me up from under what is covering the better part of me" -Incubus

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Submitted by ddakan on Wed, 01/05/2011 - 10:05pm

wow, i am stumped at how people get away with NOT PAYING. we pay 1200 a month and they take it out of our hide!

i didn't think she'd go to jail. the biggest reason is....if she is in jail, how is she supposed to earn the money to pay you.