2 very quick questions plse
Forums:
1. Do you alternate where the kids spend Xmas day ie: in my case do you take it in turns for the kids to go round their bio dad's xmas eve and
2. Do you take it in turn to take the kids on your major summer holiday ?
I just want to get a sense of 'the norm'.
Thanks and appy xmas to all !
we're moving towards this model
but so far SD would rather be with her dad and me than with her mom, so we had her for a week and a half over the summer for vacation, plus thanksgiving, plus we have her tomorrow for christmas day. We also have her every weekend, rather than EOW....
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein
Alternate Christmas morning.
Our schedule is year round every other week.
We alternate where SD8 sleeps Christmas Eve. For DH its all about Christmas morning. Last year was the first year he didn't have SD (now
Christmas morning. It was extremely depressing for him...and thus for me. This year we have her Christmas morning......its nice.
Alternate Christmas morning.
Our schedule is year round every other week.
We alternate where SD8 sleeps Christmas Eve. For DH its all about Christmas morning. Last year was the first year he didn't have SD (now
Christmas morning. It was extremely depressing for him...and thus for me. This year we have her Christmas morning......its nice.
Nope, Christmas is my Wife's day every year with SS.
Gazz,
The Custody/Visitation/Support judgement for my SS gives my Wife every December 25th. On odd numbered years SS goes to BioDad from the day school gets out until Dec 24th when he must return home. On even numbered years SS goes to BioDad on Dec 26th and returns home the day before school starts.
We are in an interstate visitation situation so BioDad also gets every spring break and 5 weeks in the summer as well as 10 days in the fall in my SS's area of residence (which BioDad has never taken).
They (primarily SpermGrandMa) have attempted to change this over the years in order to get Dec 25 as BioDad added three out of wedlock half-siblings by two different Moms to his family. But, their Church affiliation does not celebrate Christmas so the Judge has not acted on their request since Dec 25th is Christmas and is a tradition my Wife has held with my SS since he was born.
IMHO if the visitation is not an interstate situation that alternating holidays annually is a good way to go.
Just my thoughts of course.
Good luck and best regards,
We used to
but now we have been letting SD9 decide (last year and this year). She often tells Bm and me whatever we want to hear--not the truth. So I just tell SD what our plans are---"tell us what your plans are the day before Christmas Eve---the plans dont change whether or not you are with us." this tends to stop her from making stuff up, my H and I have a BS so we do what we need to for him. SD is welcome to join.
I told H I think an alternating arrangement in writing is best---but since it was not in writing before BM changes it based on how angry she is (based on lies from SD) with us that it just didnt work out. All I have to say is if you decide to alternate get it in WRITING or you will be sorry---we were.