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2 very quick questions plse

gazzabicks's picture

1. Do you alternate where the kids spend Xmas day ie: in my case do you take it in turns for the kids to go round their bio dad's xmas eve and

2. Do you take it in turn to take the kids on your major summer holiday ?

I just want to get a sense of 'the norm'.

Thanks and appy xmas to all !

northernsiren's picture

but so far SD would rather be with her dad and me than with her mom, so we had her for a week and a half over the summer for vacation, plus thanksgiving, plus we have her tomorrow for christmas day. We also have her every weekend, rather than EOW....

"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." Albert Einstein

TheBrightSide's picture

Our schedule is year round every other week.

We alternate where SD8 sleeps Christmas Eve. For DH its all about Christmas morning. Last year was the first year he didn't have SD (now Dirol Christmas morning. It was extremely depressing for him...and thus for me. This year we have her Christmas morning......its nice.

TheBrightSide's picture

Our schedule is year round every other week.

We alternate where SD8 sleeps Christmas Eve. For DH its all about Christmas morning. Last year was the first year he didn't have SD (now Dirol Christmas morning. It was extremely depressing for him...and thus for me. This year we have her Christmas morning......its nice.

SM#1's picture

but now we have been letting SD9 decide (last year and this year). She often tells Bm and me whatever we want to hear--not the truth. So I just tell SD what our plans are---"tell us what your plans are the day before Christmas Eve---the plans dont change whether or not you are with us." this tends to stop her from making stuff up, my H and I have a BS so we do what we need to for him. SD is welcome to join.
I told H I think an alternating arrangement in writing is best---but since it was not in writing before BM changes it based on how angry she is (based on lies from SD) with us that it just didnt work out. All I have to say is if you decide to alternate get it in WRITING or you will be sorry---we were.