DH can always put his phone on silent and then you will not even know who's calling lol

but at least he's ignoring her and not jumping like a little flea when she snaps

The thing is, with high conflict people, if you don't do exactly what they want, exactly when and as they want it, they will create conflict. She wanted attention, she needed to be reminded that she's SUPER important to your DH and that she can interrupt ANYTHING he's doing at ANY time.

It's like a toddler. They'll do whatever they can think of to get your attention, even if it's to do something bad, right?

I totally get it. BM just MUST talk to SD on the phone every single night that she stays over. Funny thing, we just got SD a phone last week (to stay at our house) and BM still messages DH at least twice a day to inquire about SD. Like I said, SD now has her own phone to talk to BM if she pleases.

BM is pretending like SD doesn't have the phone because she didn't provide it. Well, it came in handy when SD went to a bday party on Tuesday night and DH could talk to her. I'll bet $1,000 that when BM decides SD is "old enough" to have a phone she'll put one on her plan that she can control like she tries with everything else instead of just letting DH provide it. But NO, if DH pays, he's not a deadbeat!

Sorry this isn't really related to your post but BM legit asked DH if he'd put air in her tires a few months ago. She has her dad and her boyfriend to ask but MUST ask DH to stay relevant and because she has a golden uterus. I can put air in my own damn tires! She's just an infantile tw@t who needs DH's attention every so often.

So.. what was the bombarding over?

Was she expecting your DH to pick his son up at the concert? Honestly, it would make sense if the 6pm time happens during the concert. While the CO may state the pickup is at someone's home.. obviously when he has a school activity that happens during that time then the most sensible route would be for the other parent to pick up after the school activity.. where the activity took place.

Why doesn't he want to go watch his kid perform anyway? If I was his kid I would be disappointed my father wasn't coming to watch me.

As to incessant texts and calls.. put phone on silent or in other room... it IS possible to not respond to each and every volley.

I understand your being annoyed by this type of stuff. The BM in my situation sounds exactly the same. She calls my SO at work all the time to "update" him on SD. All things that could be a text. For me it is an SO issue also. He doesn't put a stop to it so it is on him as well. He could easily ignore her call while at work but he doesn't. I try not to let it get to me b/c obviously it isn't bothering him. He actually just informed me that BM called to tell him that SD's school called b/c she is having breathing issues and her oxygen level is at 94% which is really low and so she is taking her to the dr and if she had seen her regular dr when she was there last week this wouldn't have happened b/c her regular dr would have given her a steroid shot (even though she was in there for something else...diagnosed with a bruised sternum)...so apparently the BM I deal with is a dr too! LOL! To me it is all control (BM's issue) and lack of enforced boundaries (SO's issue). I gave up on trying to make him enforce the boundaries...just listen to it and move on... I also always google SD's diagnosis and injuries because I rarely believe that there is an actual medical problem. SD has been faking injuries for at least 4 years now and BM just enables/feeds into it. Like the bruised sternum. I googled that...usually a result of a forceful blow or car accident - SD has experienced neither and doesn't remember being hit there by anything. I googled the normal oxygen level it said 95-100% is normal and to worry if it is 90% or below....but SD's is 94% and really low and really not good?!?! How does she even know the oxygen level if she is at school? Do school nurses check that? I don't even bother telling SO I think she is full of pooh anymore. I do just question him when it doesn't make sense to maybe get him thinking! Like when she was okay to jump on the trampoline and ride her hover board after 3 months of her broken knee (which never showed up in xrays) but she couldn't participate in gym class?!?! Hmmmmmm! Sorry, totally went off topic and rambled on and on about my annoyances!

Oh, I do agree on the school things. Yes, it is something you should do for the kids but I also get aggravated that it isn't ever presented in a way like, "SD has this going on at school, would you like to attend, it is on your time, just making sure you knew for planning" it is always YOU HAVE to do this on your day/time!