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I am a horrible person and DH needs to get his "b@$%" back from me according to BM

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Submitted by Daisymazy2 on Thu, 01/25/2018 - 5:13pm

BM has asked for DH to watch SD during Spring Break for a week while she goes on a cruise. BM has been going on these cruises for Spring Break for years. She also takes a trip out of the country once a year with her sister. DH will more than likely be working during that time and isn't going to be home most of the day. I work from home, so I will be here with my BS. I have said, "Nope, Not happening."

Due to SD's behavior, age 15, I refuse to allow her in my home especially around my BS. She likes to lie and call either social services or the police. She has lied about being raped multiple times and and lied about BM hitting her multiple times. She steals BM's credit cards and buys things online. She has HUGE meltdown temper tantrums even at school. The list goes on and on. She is seeing multiple counselors now for her behavior. I haven't been "blessed" to see her in years. SD has been seeing DH outside the home for awhile now. First, it was SD's choice to see DH outside of the home and now it is MY choice for her not to be here.

DH told BM that is wasn't possible for SD to be here over her Spring Break. Bm knows that I work from home. BM sent DH an email to tell him that he needs to get his Balls back from me. I never laugh so hard in my life. BM is so upset because NO ONE will watch SD for her to go on this cruise. Her parents can't watch SD. SD called social services on them and they are not allowed to be alone with SD. BM's friends refuse to watch her because SD called social services on one of BM's friends.

I guess BM is either stuck at home or will be taking SD with her on this cruise.

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thinkthrice's picture

Submitted by thinkthrice on Thu, 01/25/2018 - 6:45pm

THIS!!

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Submitted by mro on Thu, 01/25/2018 - 5:46pm

Why can't he take time off and take her for a week? Not at your house of course! I read the other blogs and she sounds like a nightmare. Why is BM stuck with her almost 100%? This is a tough situation for sure. After all he is her parent too. But you can't be expected to have any responsibility for her. That's his, and BM's job.

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Submitted by Daisymazy2 on Thu, 01/25/2018 - 5:57pm

DH is losing his job in Mar. His company is shutting down. He has a new job now that starts in Mar. He will not be able to take a week off the first of April. He will be in training in another state during that time. DH does take SD from time to time during the year to see his mom who is in another state. He usually takes her a couple of times for a few weeks in the summer. DH does visit SD outside of the home every weekend. BM has offered for DH to stay at her home during Spring Break. He says no.

BM has had her parents and friends watch SD until recently. Once SD started calling social services everyone stopped watching her for BM. All of DH's family is out of state.

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Submitted by lintini on Fri, 01/26/2018 - 12:36am

LOL!!! }:)

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Submitted by Snowflake on Thu, 01/25/2018 - 7:03pm

Most of the times, these bitter BM's play the withholding custody from Dad game. That creates a normal child who becomes a nightmare teenager. At which time the BM needs time away from said nightmare child that she created.

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Submitted by Daisymazy2 on Thu, 01/25/2018 - 9:09pm

BM has full custody of SD with visitation agreed upon with DH and BM. DH was didn't get his own lawyer and trusted BM. I told him that I could still "smack him silly" for not getting some type of help even to just look over the custody order.

When I was dating and engaged to DH, BM would limit his time with his daughter. He would have to jump and run the day of visitation if he wanted to see her. She would not allow any overnight visits. We could not plan anything for the weekends because BM MAY call at 8 am for dh to pick up SD at 8.15 am. She had DH trained to jump every time she called. Me, being the evil SM, insisted that DH start sending emails a few days prior and set up visitation.

Once SD became a problem child, she wanted to dump her on us every chance she got. SD decided she didn't like my rules and didn't want to visit. Now, because of her behavior she can't.

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Submitted by Tiger7 on Thu, 01/25/2018 - 6:34pm

Wow - she's ticked cause no one wants to be around her little monster, huh? I don't blame you. I wouldn't have her in my home either.

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Submitted by IslandGal on Thu, 01/25/2018 - 8:58pm

Good on you for standing your ground and good on DH for not bending to BMs whim. She created 5he monster SD is..time to reap the benefits..or pain.

Guess no cruise for BM..or she can take her evil creation with her. Bon voyage!

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Fri, 01/26/2018 - 12:42am

oh Hon, keep DH's balls close and lock your purse..... BM might just get a hold of it and then DH caves and you are stuck with the little bitch for summer... nope hand onto those balls Hon and enjoy your SD free time...

BM can stay at home or take her daughter with, I would be absolutely evel and instigate with SD, asking her, why does your mother never want to take you, I think it's infair, if we could've afford it we would take all the kids with us, why are BM so selfish, BM is not allowing you any fun, you should demand going with, BM is using the CS dad's pay for your designer cloths and private school to holiday on..... why not confront her, it's your money not hers }:)

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Submitted by lintini on Fri, 01/26/2018 - 12:44am

The stars really aligned here and the karma bus has arrived!

Sorry not sorry BM!
I wouldn't be alive right now if I pulled any stunts like SD.

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Submitted by Teas83 on Fri, 01/26/2018 - 8:36am

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Submitted by Harry on Fri, 01/26/2018 - 1:50am

BM is not giving her daughter any discipline for the lies she tells. And the life’s she has destroyed
BM is made her bed, now it’s her life. She should Just stay home and enjoy her daughter

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Submitted by Myss.Tique D'Off on Fri, 01/26/2018 - 2:19am

Good on you for saying no.
With her behaviour, why on earth would anyone want to watch SD? It is begging for trouble!

BM takes these cruises every year? She has had years to come up with a solution for the "kenneling" (LOL!!) of SD.
Triggered memories of Eustace of Courage the Cowardly Dog fame. I can see someone calling SD: Stupid Dog!! (SD is an abbrevation of Stupid Dog...)

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Submitted by Kes on Fri, 01/26/2018 - 2:53am

Submitted by Snowflake on Thu, 01/25/2018 - 7:03pm.
Most of the times, these bitter BM's play the withholding custody from Dad game. That creates a normal child who becomes a nightmare teenager. At which time the BM needs time away from said nightmare child that she created.

Exactly! We have had several pleas to take said nightmare child (SD22) to live with us, in the last 6 months. This is SO not happening.

Schadenfreude is now your friend, Daisymazy. Wink }:) Well said on saying no.

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Fri, 01/26/2018 - 11:33am

Daisy, I don't know about your DH, but my DH likes what I do to his ba!!s... }:)

Solutions for BM:

* take SD with her
* don't go on a cruise and take SD with her on vacation elsewhere
* stick SD into the psych ward for the duration of the cruise
* don't take the cruise, stay home with SD, and open a big ol' can of pout - not that BM will ever realize that SHE is directly responsible for the walking talking sh!t show that is SD.