BM's father loves loves loves DH. About nine months after DH and I started dating, I went to one of SS's flag football games. As DH and I arrive in the parking lot there is an older man waving wildly from his truck and yelling DH's name. I was like "who is that?!" and DH replied "oh, that's BM's father." Since that time, BM's father has invited DH out to lunch, has asked him if he wants to go fishing, etc. DH always politely declines, because he really doesn't want to be socializing with BM's family.

All that would be fine, but I don't trust BM's father. He's inserted himself into some of DH's conflicts with BM. He wanted to attend the mediation session BM demanded, as a "supportive third party". He also has reached out to DH several times, to get him to "see BM's side of things."

My MIL tells me, that BM's parents are "neutral", but I'm not so sure. MIL does not know that BM's father wanted to attend the mediation or that BM's father has tried to convince DH to see "BM's side of things." MIL also probably doesn't realize that BM's mother is just as nasty and belittling as BM.

In response to one of BM's father's emails, DH has told him that BM has called him a deadbeat dad and told him he "doesn't care about his children" when he won't do exactly what she wants. DH has told BM's father that he's concerned that his children are struggling in school and that BM seems unwilling or unable to do anything about it (this was in response to BM's father's email saying how wonderful and successful SSs are). BM's father has tried to claim that DH is mistaken.

I've warned DH that he should not trust BM's father, because he is not his friend. DH does maintain a comfortable distance from him, but of course, they are still Facebook friends, although he adjusted his settings so his posts wouldn't show up in BM's father's feed. Yesterday, DH posted something about our date night. BM's father comments - "looks like fun" and then makes some comment about SS's football game yesterday. DH didn't go because he was working. I'm thinking "seriously, dude, let it go...why do you need to be making comments about SSs when DH posts about going out with me?" I'm sure I'm reading to much into it, but man, I wish BM's father would just give it up. DH does not want to be friends with him. Also, it makes me uncomfortable that BM's father is monitoring DH's Facebook page. Both DH and I have BM blocked, but what's the point of blocking someone if her father can simply show her everything. Ugh, makes me want to leave Facebook again.