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Barbara31's picture

Submitted by Barbara31 on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 1:41pm

Ok so U have a question my daughter father hasn't been there for her for the past 7 years he contacts me once in awhile and every four years or so and tries to say hello and wants to see if you can meet his daughter until the last time I heard of him was when she was one years old he doesn't pay child support but nothing recently he contacted me and wants to talk. She is 7 now my fiance her dad has been there for her whole 7 years now he's telling me if I choose to speak to her Bo father that he doesn't want her to call him and sad and want and if she does he's going to feel awkward. Ehat should i do talk to him or not? :O

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Tuff Noogies's picture

Submitted by Tuff Noogies on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 2:25pm

LMFAO!

tankh21's picture

Submitted by tankh21 on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 2:18pm

This reminds me of BM trying to get money with a go me fund of $10,000 because DH left her with two boys. She couldn't spell for shit true story. She's an LVN and spells DOES like DOSE!!!! LMFAO sorry }:)

Thumper's picture

Submitted by Thumper on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 2:24pm

OMG....

Hate go fund me junk for "SINGLE MOMS" or Fundrazer junk.

Just as bad as Adults on there saying they need money to adopt kids in foster care.

HAHAHAHHAHAHHAAHHAHAHAHA do they not think some of us know THEY GET big bucks each month until 18 years of age????

Same thing for Foster Parents---NICE monthly syphon.

(sorry,,,just irks me)

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Submitted by Ninji on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 2:27pm

You don't get big bucks for being a foster parent. You do get money to supplement their care, but it certainly can't be described as big bucks.

Thumper's picture

Submitted by Thumper on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 2:33pm

I would say average 500.00 a month is big bucks. for 1 child.

PLUS NO medical expenses, free day care vouchers always got my goat when the little one should be with foster parent BUT thrown into daycare.

AND ding ding ding...free respite care.

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Submitted by Ninji on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 2:46pm

You have no idea what you talking about $500 (the amount depends on many factors) is nothing when you consider most of the time, these poor kids are dropped off at your doorstep with nothing but the clothes on their backs. If it's baby, you need to have diaper, wipes, formula, a crib and everything else. You have to take them to medical appointments, court appointments, visitation appointments and what ever else the court wants. This means you are either losing work or you are a stay at home mom/dad and your spouse is the only person bringing in an income.

To add on top of that, the emotional toll having a child that was very likely been abused into your home. When things finally get into a routine and you are emotionally invested in the child, their caseworker calls and tells you that the child is being placed with a relative or back with their parents that very day.

Then you do it all over again.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 3:48pm

Foster parents are not replacement parents. The goal of the system is to mend homes and reunite families. Fosters parents know this from the moment the sit down in their first MAPP training class.

They know from day one of the child placed in their home is eligible for adoption or if it is just a basic foster situation

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Submitted by NoWireCoatHanga... on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 6:25pm

My cousin just adopted three siblings who were her foster kids for years. In her case, it worked out for her and the kids.

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 2:42pm

You do in NYC!!!!

A "normal" kid is @ $800 a month. Kids with special needs(this includes fire starters, LBGQ teens, tern moms and their children,HIV+..)range from $1000 to $1800 a month PER KID.

It's rare for a foster parent here to have just one foster kid.

The foster care money is in addition to your own monthly income. Fosters parents have to verify that they can covet their monthly expenses without foster care money. If you aren't able to do that, you can not become a foster parent here.

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Submitted by tankh21 on Wed, 07/19/2017 - 7:13am

LOL it was so freaking fake I this is no joke I found it online when I googled her however, for some reason it is not up anymore. It was in 2014 when DH left BM. But, I wonder why I cannot find anything on her not even a picture on her when you google her name it's totally weird. I showed the go me fund page that BM had created and he just laughed it even had pictures of the skids. I wish I could find it so I could show you.

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Submitted by Thumper on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 2:18pm

OP

So are you telling us bio dad has not paid child support in 7 years?
and now he wants to see his daughter after spending a small amount of time here and there?

Your boyfriend is not the bio father he is your boyfriend.

Thumper's picture

Submitted by Thumper on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 2:27pm

The title of Fiancé is overused these days. Half the time it is used to make what ever the relationship is, 'sound better'.......

Long ago it actually meant something....

just saying.

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Submitted by notsobad on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 3:09pm

Bahahahahaha, my friend and I were just talking about this.

A friend of hers just started a business and has 1 employee. All she can talk about his her Employee this and her Employee that. She sounds just like this Seinfeld episode!

Thumper's picture

Submitted by Thumper on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 2:45pm

Ninji here you go...Fl for example,

Effective Jan.1, 2017, the minimum room and board rates paid to foster parents are as follows:
0-5 Years: $448.53
Age 6-12: $460.02
Years Age 13-21: $538.43

Add WIC vouchers too if applicable.

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Submitted by NoWireCoatHanga... on Tue, 07/18/2017 - 6:27pm

Lots of BM's that we read about on this site text like this. My SD's mom writes like this. So I think Disneyfan translated it pretty well

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 07/19/2017 - 4:50am

I'll play...

Your daughter is 7 years old..... last time you talked to her Dad was 6 years ago... when your daughter was only one.
Now who the hell calls you every 4 years once in a while... ?? Are you sure who knows who's the bio Dad?

Then your daughter only knows your fiance as Dad... you want your daughter to talk to her bio Dad and fiance said NO...
good on him, he raised your daughter with more then one bio Dad and now you want to mess it up...

I hope your fiance tells you - keep the ring Hon I'm out of here