Monday I am home from work, playing on my phone, looking through pictures feeling sentimental about BS (who had been gone for a week) and DH. I made a collage of DH and BS and wrote a sentimental statement about how much BS looks up to DH, it hasn't always been easy for them but BS shows his love for DH, etc. etc. It was really about my BS and his love for DH. I posted on IG and shared on FB, tagging DH.

So OSD commented on it. I wasn't expecting that (nor really gave it a thought) because she hasn't ever liked, commented on anything that I have tagged DH in. With the one exception of an anniversary post a couple years back where I had uploaded some pics from our wedding day and she only liked the picture of just DH. (She had to look through all the other ones to see the one of DH).

So here is some of the exchange from FB:

OSD: Wish he had more time for his real kids.

Me: You guys are all adults. Why don't you call him and invite him to do something? His relationship with BS has nothing to do with you guys.

OSD: I've tried 3 times. Whenever I say we should set something up he never responds. He's the father he should be trying harder then me.... Ever since you came along he's always too buy. We used to be allowed at his house now we have to make plans and meet up somewhere. I wish he never met you. You are the worse step mother.

Me: It's pretty sad that you have to turn a post about an 11 year old into a post about yourself. SS and YSD are welcome to the house. I've always known the way you feel about me so why would I be comfortable with having you over. You can't expect to treat people like crap and be disrespectful and they want to have you over. Also not sure why everyone thinks that the only way you can have a relationship with each other is if it's at the house. Aren't you an adult with your own house??? Invite your dad over. I don't stand in the way of your dad having a relationship with you. You are using me as the scapegoat and blaming the wrong person.

OSD: This is a post about my dad. But like I've said, I've tried. If he wants a relationship with me, he needs to reach out to me at this point. And maybe you can grow up yourself Zero and start acting like a "Step mother" to the 4 kids that you married into and reach out every once in awhile and maybe we wouldn't have the feelings we have towards you.

Me: Reaching out works both ways. SS was just over at the house due to an invitation from me. I sent YSD a baby gift. So I do make an effort. But you have been so disrespectful to me time and time again I prefer to not have a relationship with you. And the way you are acting on this post is the exact reason why I don't mess with you. And again your relationship with your dad has zero to do with me.

OSD: I'm a SM (want to add that she hasn't seen her skids in over a year and has been around them maybe 6 times) and no matter how disrespectful my SDs are to me or will ever be to me I will always reach out to them first. But maybe it just takes a strong enough woman to be a step mother. Maybe if you would reach out to me I wouldn't feel the way I do about you. I've seen you maybe once (not true). Grow up Zero.

Me: Sorry just because I'm a step mother by marriage does not mean I have to put with with kids being rude, disrespectful to me. Step mother does not equal let the step children walk all over you, be disrespectful, steal form you, try to fight you in your own home and then just smile and take that crap.

***Then cue the masses*** Fellow step moms, non step moms, people who know our situation, people who have no clue about our situation started commenting. When it was all said and done she had her ass handed to her. All in very well thoughtful, insightful comments.

She did follow up with: I've reached out to my dad several times. And before I even met Zero (not true) she was mad because I was the first person to cook on her stove and made my dad's father's day shitty. (Potato Gate) I've reached out to him several times and we have hung out once and his grandson asks about him (I don't believe this. Gskid is 3 and has seen DH like 20 minutes in the past year and half) and he doesn't seem to have the time.

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Normally I would never let drama on my FB page but she was doing such a good job of making herself look like an ass and I figured the opportunity landed in my lap to let DH's family/friends finally see what I deal with.

I did go back the next day and delete her comments and blocked her from my FB.

At the end of the day her issue is with her Dad. Not me. She just blames me. And yes things have changed since DH got with me. The skids all became adults and started their own families. OSD has moved several times (to different states). We have a house. DH is busy with side jobs. He's busy living his life with his wife. It's like the skids want DH to just be sitting around waiting for them to want to spend time with him and then he is supposed to jump.

And I am still confused why everyone (skids, in-laws) think that the only way that DH and the skids can have a relationship is if it takes place at our house. I haven't been to my dad's house in 9 years and we still have a great relationship. OSD is an adult- invite your dad over! Geez!

I feel that her comments were all about what DH and I need to do for her and the effort we need to make for her. Shit works both ways.

And here are the text exchanges between her and DH in regards to her trying to hang out.

OSD: We should hang out.

DH: Okay!

.... Then that's it. Nothing is planned. I seriously think on Father's Day she expected DH to make a plan with her to hang out and not the other way around.

***UGGGHHH*** Literally as I am typing this my friend sent me a screenshot of DH's FB with a post from OSD from today- picture that is 5 years old of him and the skids (from Potato Gate) that she posts literally every single year around Father's Day with "Miss you dad, wish I could see you." This time it's "Love you Dad wish we could hang out every once in awhile."