Thank you to everyone who responded to my blog yesterday about if I brought the skids back into my life. I got a lot of great advice and a lot of things to think about overall.

Unfortunately for me and DH I don't think anything is changing when it comes to the situation. DH is still lazy, doesn't want to do any of the work, refuses to even try to understand why I feel the way I feel. I think it's easier for him to put the blame on me rather then actually parent and do some of the hard work himself. I know his family and friends think it's a "Zero problem" but it's really a "DH problem". I know that now. This is pretty much how DH is about everything tough in life. Really he has had the power this whole time to make things better and he just hasn't used it.

Also the skids are adults and if they want to reconcile with me they can reach out to me. They aren't doing that. So not sure why all of this falls on me. It's a two way street.

I am going to continue doing what I have been doing but I am going to do it better. I am going to really stop letting the skids take up space in my head. Most of the stuff I post here is usually just about the stupid stuff the skids do that I come across from social media or reading DH's texts. So I am going to do better and not even look at social media or texts. This will help me overall. Because really the more "bad" information I get on the skids, it's just more information to add to my arsenal of all the reasons I dislike the skids. They are assholes bottom line. They aren't changing. I don't need to keep feeding into my dislike of them because that isn't making the situation better.

With that being said I am considering buying YSD a baby gift. It's a catch 22. I think she is the "safest" out of her and OSD to do a nice thing for and maybe try to mend the relationship a tad. But she is also a Daddddy's girl and she is the one that DH allows to get away with most everything because he is afraid to even whisper NO to her. YSD and I have never had a real falling out over anything. She just got caught up in her sisters and BM. I do think she uses DH, I do think she is BM's "bitch" in trying to get money from DH. She is entitled, annoying and I'd rather listen to nails on a chalkboard then be around her. Buutttt.... out of her and OSD I think having YSD around is a lot better then OSD. Because OSD is JUST LIKE BM in every way and she is a criminal,shady etc. And OSD has been very disrespectful to me.

I'm going to look at it as I am just buying a baby gift and that is that. It's a step I feel comfortable in doing. So while part of me is like why am I making the effort, this could all backfire on me,I'm hoping it's a small baby step in the right direction. I'm hoping she has a registry and I can buy something and just have it shipped directly to her.

So other than the possible baby gift until DH makes an effort on his part things will remain the same. I am going to make improvements in what I am doing so I can handle the skids presence overall. But I was getting to the point where just thinking/hearing about them (even though it was part of my own doing) was making me want to jump off a cliff. LOL. Not good.

Thanks again everyone for your support and encouragement!