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Reward for Step Momming

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Submitted by LochnessStepMonster on Sat, 05/20/2017 - 7:20am

If you remember my last post about my SM co worker this is a bit of an update.

She came in and showed me a bracelet that one of her step daughters gave her for Mothers' Day. It was a nice bracelet. It had a charm that said family because, as her SD put it, she is her family.

Co worker then says this is the reward for treating them like her own. She had tried for so many years and this was the end result.I told her that i would take my sanity over throwing myself in somewhere where I'm not wanted for however many years. But both methods probably have their failings and their successes.

I think i detected a bit of a huff as she walked away.

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CANYOUHELP's picture

Submitted by CANYOUHELP on Sat, 05/20/2017 - 11:49am

My luck if I stayed in it, I would end up buying the bracelet for THEM, without a single thank you....and still--- given the exclusionary SM torture treatment. You have to know when to bail if your boat is sinking....

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Submitted by momof3smof2 on Sat, 05/20/2017 - 3:59pm

I think this is a problem on both sides, and indicative of a lot of the problems on this board. People seem to believe that one size fits all in the world, both step family and otherwise.

She seems to believe that you should be doing things as she did them. You seem to believe that she should have done things the way you have done. But, the reality is that what she did worked for her. And what you are doing seems to be working for you. And both of those situations are okay.

What is not okay is judging other people who are happy with their situations.

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Submitted by Vivian7 on Sun, 05/21/2017 - 8:14am

I'm one of those fairly successful Stepmoms. Been in the game for 20+ years, My stepkids are 26 and 22 and we have 2 grands. I did NOT have the worlds greatest DH, BM, or SF. They were okay--at the very least not terribly poisonous. But we made it work. I'm very close to the kids now that they're adults.

I get Mother's Day gifts every year. This year was a red dogwood tree (which I have wanted forever) and a "Jack Frost" Siberian bugloss for my garden. Both are beautiful. Son-in-law is still working on training my wisteria into tree form from 2years ago. They're good kids.

I won't shit all over someone's success. I know it can be done even in not so great circumstances. Bravo to the ones who make it.