I seriously HATE her.

She KNOWS she can't see SS without her dad there. This isn't new.

Yesterday she mentioned mothers day. She told SS "I want to see you on Mother's Day". SS didn't respond to her text, because he had a friend over. He had already planned to call his grandpa to ask if he would help him see her for an hour or so either on mothers day, or around that time. He hadn't made the call yet, but we had already had the conversation and he said he would make the arrangements. So DH and I didn't worry about it. BM hadn't mentioned it so we weren't THAT concerned.

When SS didn't respond after about 2 hours, BM decided to "take matters in to her own hands". Apparently she just "forgets" that she isn't allowed to just come and get him. Oh, and that she doesn't even OWN a car. But that's beside the point. She knows she can't just come and get him. Anyway, she sends DH a text saying that "Sunday is mothers day, SS will be with me. Should I pick him up Saturday or Sunday" DH responded "negative". Yeah, he probably should have said something more like "SS will be contacting your dad to make arrangements". But... it pissed him off that she started barking orders. SS has made it clear that he only wants to spend an hour or so with her. She doesn't get to dictate this stuff. She replies that she will be on our door step with the sheriff to take him. What she didn't realize, is that SS was sitting right next to DH when that text came through. He's almost 14, he knows that his mom just threatened to call the cops on his dad. He also knows that his mom... has no legal ground to do so. And that everything is at HIS request.

SS calls BM, and just lays in to her "why would you threaten to call the cops on my dad? That's just stupid, you know you can't pick me up". She lays on the sob story about how it's Mother's Day and he should be with her. He tells her Yeah, I planned on spending SOME time with you, I just haven't had time to call grandpa yet. She was yelling at him so loud he was in his room with the door shut and I was down the hall in the living room and I could hear HER, she was not on speaker phone. Finally he starts raising his voice back. Then I hear him say "Respect? You have been screaming at me for 20 minutes". So... he reminds her that she can't just call the shots, his grandpa has to be there, and he gets to decided how long the visit is. Somewhere in there she mentioned something about grad tickets. He said "you haven't even ASKED me for one. Why would you go in to my school trying to DEMAND one?". I don't know what the outcome of that was. I haven't asked him yet.

So after a few they calm down and SS says "one more thing, I do NOT want METH MAN THERE"... Oh my gosh. She started screaming at him.. WHY??? WHY DON'T YOU WANT TO SEE HIM??? HE'S CHANGED". SS says yeah, I've heard that before and then the next day you were breaking up again and then he has "changed" again and then you are breaking up again. I hate him, I've always hated him, and I don't want him around. They fought for another 15 minutes about that. Then... SS shut down. "Yup, yup, yup, fine."

He hangs up and calls his grandpa. Asked to help with him seeing her for mothers day. Of course gpa says yes. (even though the last time they helped they said they wouldn't be doing that again for a while). They decide on breakfast for mothers day. A short visit. He hangs up with gpa and never calls BM back. A few hours later we get another text from BM (to DH) with some article about "non custodial parents kidnapping children" with a text saying that "she has a plan". I am not sure if she was threatening to kidnap him, or if she was saying that DH is kidnapping him by not letting her pick him up. So now, I am freaking out.

I hate her.