So, of course BM's mom DIDN'T see SS this past Wednesday like she wanted to. Tuesday night she had some excuse (that she has already used in the past) as to why she can't see him "but can I see him Thursday or Saturday?". No, you can't we will try again next Wednesday. I hadn't told SS that she wanted to see him, so nor harm done there.
She is just flaky. And I can't STAND people like that.

Now, BM's DAD on the other hand, is just a control freak. And thinks that because SS is HIS GRANDSON, he should be able to call the shots when it comes to how his relationship is with BM. Well, I have news for you pal. YOU DON'T.

Apparently, her dad has been calling SS since last Saturday asking if he wants to see BM for her birthday (it was yesterday). SS told him he would "think about it" and call him back. Well he never called him back. Didn't say anything to DH or I about it, and ignored his grandpa's calls for the next several days. GET A CLUE GRANDPA, HE DOESN'T WANT TO GO!! So, Tuesday night at about 8:45, after Gpa called him 3 or 4 times, SS finally tells me my grandpa wants to take me to dinner tomorrow with my mom for her birthday. Oh yeah? How do you feel about that...? "I should probably see her, it is her birthday". You don't have to if you don't want to. "No, I should see her. (long pause) I guess I should". I said OK... if that is your final answer then I will call your grandpa. "... yeah".

About 5 minutes later I get an email from Grandpa's wife. SHE LOVES SS WITH ALL OF HER HEART, and I really like this woman. She had to be BM's stepmom for most of her life. The woman deserves an award. Anyway, the email says that Gpa has been trying to coordinate a dinner for BM's bday but can't seem to get an answer from SS. And "maybe he should have talked to you first"... duh. He's 13. You should ALWAYS talk to the parents that actually HAVE HIM first. Whatever.

Anyway, after some back and forth emails, Gpa called me. I told him "well the fact that he was avoiding your calls should have been your first clue that he doesn't really want to. When he WANTS to see her, he ALWAYS tells me "I want to see my mom" and then we make it happen. He doesn't like to be forced or bullied in to it. His response "it's good for him". Ummmm F*CK YOU OLD MAN, you don't know what is good for him, nor do you CARE!!! I wish I could have said that.

So I told him that SS said "he probably should" so I am going to leave it at that. He did request that it is a SHORT visit and that BM doesn't take a million pictures. He hates that. So after MORE back and forth, we agreed on 2 hours for dinner yesterday. (he wanted him for an undisclosed amount of time, complaining that I had only given him a 4 hour window).

So they picked him up at 4 yesterday and dropped him off at baseball practice at 6. I saw BM sitting in the backseat of their car. I waved at Gma, and Gpa came in and waited for SS to get ready. He was inside my house for about 10 minutes. I'm sure that bothered BM because SS was outside getting his baseball gear together. So she KNEW I was having conversation with HER dad. She HATES that they talk to me. OH WELL. We talked about how his shower broke and how he fixed it... nothing of substance.

I asked SS how it went after baseball practice, he said "REALLY REALLY AWKWARD, I don't want to do that again for a long time". So... I'm sure we won't hear from her again until Mother's Day. Which she will try to DEMAND, and DH will tell her NO.