You are here

O/T Can I just say...

mommadukes2015's picture

Submitted by mommadukes2015 on Mon, 05/01/2017 - 8:41am

Heroin sucks.
Alcoholism sucks.
Cancer sucks.

But what sucks the most is not being able to help. I've lost a co-worker to brain tumor in March, a former coworker to heroin over the weekend and SO has a friend who is about to drink himself into oblivion any day now and they're all under 40.

Not a happy camper today.

Comments

notasm3's picture

Submitted by notasm3 on Mon, 05/01/2017 - 1:03pm

I am so sorry for your impending loss, but thankful she is not in pain.

My mother had a 2 1/2 year downward slide when her breast cancer returned and metastasized after 8 years. I kept fearing when she would end up in horrible pain - but fortunately that never happened.

Constant work's picture

Submitted by Constant work on Mon, 05/01/2017 - 11:14am

Cancer sucks! Lost my dad 7 months ago to stomach cancer. I pray daily for all of those still going through it and their families. It is such an awful disease for all involved Sad .

Thumper's picture

Submitted by Thumper on Mon, 05/01/2017 - 12:56pm

Granny So very sorry. It is Sooooooo hard on the family to watch this.

My one sister died of Leukemia. I do understand.

I do not have sympathy for drug abusers and habitual drunks. Heroin and Crack heads are the worst.
Before their first hit THEY are well aware that drug use never ends well. Add into that mix a few kids in their custodial care and you can bet child support is going for the next high.

I can not stomach it and I can not stomach the lies tied to drug use.

GET into in patient rehab for at least 6months and then we can talk after a few years AND proof of being clean and sober. No doctor shopping allowed to begin substituting one drug for another drug. That is not clean and sober----

mommadukes2015's picture

Submitted by mommadukes2015 on Mon, 05/01/2017 - 1:22pm

I'm very sorry about your sister. <3

I think that everyone has different experiences and opinions about drug abuse/use. I think many people turn to drugs for various reasons. Some people end up addicted to pain pills very much by accident and end up hooked which then leads to poor decisions.

What matters to me is the few that made poor decisions, but then made the decision to change and did. My SO is one of those people. He's been clean/sober for 7 years now, so please be aware that I take comments related addition very personally.

He came up in drugs and alcohol. He left home on his own at 16 after his alcoholic father popped off a shotgun in their run down single wide trailer.

I also think exposure and socioeconomic status plays a factor as well. I also know that the treatment system is corrupt as all hell. They take the drugs (and the money) from the street and put the drugs and money in the pockets of doctors who just get users addicted to a substance Big Pharma can control.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Mon, 05/01/2017 - 3:38pm

I hear you, M'Dukes.

I think my heart has frozen after so much exposure to loss and addiction.

Cancer is the worst, and I hate that this country's healthcare system is so broken.

notsobad's picture

Submitted by notsobad on Mon, 05/01/2017 - 4:36pm

We lost my stepmom to ovarian cancer, just over 7 years ago. After taking care of her for more than 2 years my Dad died just over 3 months after her.

I have a young cousin who has stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. She's stable at the moment but it will kill her eventually, it's just a matter of when. She has 3 kids under 7 years old.

I hate cancer.

As for addiction. I'm so torn. I have lost someone to addiction and honestly it was a relief.
I feel bad saying that but it's the gods honest truth. They were such a drain, emotionally, financially, and physically that once they were gone, I was happy that I didn't have to deal with them anymore.
I told myself that they were out of pain and not fighting anymore but the fact was I was tired of always making excuses for them.

Livingoutloud's picture

Submitted by Livingoutloud on Mon, 05/01/2017 - 6:05pm

My mom has been battling cancer for two years now. No end in sight. So terrible

ESMOD's picture

Submitted by ESMOD on Wed, 03/21/2018 - 9:06am

All of them are heartbreaking.  It's especially difficult to see people who appear to be voluntarily killing themselves through addictions when you are watching people with incurable diseases fighting for every extra hour of life that they can get.  And even if we are callous and tell ourselves that the addicts are getting what they deserve, it's still a tragedy for all the people left behind and the permanent scar on their hearts.  Prayers to everyone for peace in their lives.