I'm at a loss. My blended relationship goes from problem to problem. I have brought three children to the relationship the two oldest go to their dad half the week. My youngest is with me all the time. My husband had brought two children to the relationship who are with us full time. My husbands wife committed suicide when they split. When I met my husband he wanted play therapy for his son through a friend I knew a contact and we met became friends and I helped him and his kids get through the grief. My husband had a history a breakdown s and depression he said due to being unhappy in his relationship. His children needed someone so did he I think I plugged that gap. My children had been through a lot my second husband was horrible to my oldest kids. We had been on our own for five years we're happy and in a routine. I work full time so my kids have had to toe the line and help. My new husbands kids were different and hasn't had any structure. They were allowed to stay up until they decided it was bedtime 2am) eat what they want sweets ceareal for dinner. His little girl has temper tantrums if she can't get what she wants. (She's nearly 9) she hits and fights steals etc. There are no boundaries or punishments. I came along and my husband tried to exclude my daughter she wasn't allowed to ask to sit next to me only his daughter as she lost her mum. He hates my ex and won't speak to me for the whole day after we drop my kids off even though nothing is said. My dad brought my youngest up as I worked my dad helps us with school runs (inc his kids) but he complains my dad is in the house. He is driving me insane everyday he picks on something usually out of my control and sulks. My life is spent constantly upset. If I try and tell his kids he becomes hugely defensive. I honestly don't know what I'm doing anymore. He loans even when I work and I pay half the bills. He's impossible and I'm starting to dislike him and his one sided opinions