you delete your profile and create another email and new name... but don't....
this is not the end.

and I agree with DH, SS did nothing wrong Hon, BM pumped his brain full of shit and SS only told what BM told him,

DH should simply explain to SS the CS matter and show how much he pays for BM, DH must make it clear to SS, even though only BM gives him stuff she got the money from DH....

But his stance hurts his son, not the mother.

He knows that BM may flake. Instead of also flaking, he could ask others (Grandpa) for help.

Dad wants to do a father/son activity. The kid asked his dad to do scouts with him. But making sure mom doesn't stick it to him again was much more important to him.

I would say the kid already has pride since he showed up to the ceremony knowing he had the wrong shirt and gladly participated anyway. A lot of kids that age would throw a fit and say they can't go bc they don't have the right uniform and everyone will be looking at them. Also, he was directly asked by grandpa where is your new shirt? What is he supposed to do? Lie? Run away without answering? Even a vague, "I don't have one yet" would open the door to more questions and BM jumping in to explain that she had two big expensive come up at once. Dad was going to look like he dropped the ball no matter what.

It's a universal war, I swear. BM2 has only been back in this country for going on 4 months and we've already had the clothing and medicine war. She suggested to SS14 that he leave half his stuff there. SS14 doesn't have a clue about life so does exactly what mummy dearest says.

DH and I explain to him that we are only going to support this household. DO we ever go to his mum's house and "borrow" her eggs, bread and milk when we run out? No. DH told BM2 as much. She tried to say last time that we forgot to pack his pajamas and meds. No...you kept his pajamas and meds therefore you now have to replace it. Didn't like being reminded but now all of a sudden she took him clothing shopping because she is MOTY.

Just smile and wave and stay out of it. Honestly, the millions of little things these crazy golden uterus morons do will drive you to insanity and erode your marriage. Just repeat "not my circus, not my monkeys" and let your DH handle it. Trust me. Enjoy the man she was too stupid to keep and shake your head at all the things she does out of pure jealousy.

I'm glad Your DH is going to talk to the audiologist. That seems to be the one good thing that's come out of this.

Sorry, but I disagree with most on here. Your DH should feel bad. SS did nothing wrong, he was asked a question and he answered.

I'm begging you, not as a STalker but as a citizen of the world this boy will eventually vote, drive, buy, and hopefully work in, do not have any dad apologies to that boy.

This is a teachable moment. So what is the lesson going to be? "I am owed stuff and I can embarrass people into giving stuff to me." Or "I can handle myself with grace no matter if things aren't going perfectly." Which lesson does dad really want him to learn?

Mom should have taught the boy to get through that ceremony with dignity and confidence even in the wrong shirt since she's the only one who knew he would be a dot of blue in a sea of green. Dad should have taught him the same if he had the slightest suspicion it would turn out that way.

Mistakes were made so here we are now.

* Dad should use this opportunity tonight to talk to the boy about how he felt blurting out the family business to the room full of people (bad/embarrassed/angry).

* He should have the boy repeat the Boy Scout motto "Be prepared." How could he have prepared for that night? Come up with scenarios that would have been better.

* Practice them. "We're workin' on it, it'll be here soon" etc. How do these feel? Calm/easy/normal

* End up with telling kid next time he thinks he might be in a tight spot, come to dad and we will work it out together so YOU (ss) can be prepared (NOT so dad can swoop in and fix everything).

I am begging your dh to remember he is raising an ADULT who must function a lifetime in a world where nothing is fair, s*it happens, spontaneous stress erupts. He is not raising a forever Cub Scout who will always be a helpless little guy. Tons of boys could have handled that moment better and have. There are lots of poor and fatherless Cub Scouts in this world and not all of them yell in the middle of the reception about it. Many moms/guardians/scoutmasters have taught the child to handle his own emotions in that moment and taught him something gracious to say. So this boy can learn it, too.

I would absolutely advise against dad groveling before this child in this circumstance. I agree the child did not do the embarrassing "on purpose," he was just erupting with the ammunition BM had loaded into him.

Your dh needs to load him with different ammo, stuff he can use successfully and honorably the rest of his life.

And there in lays the rub.... that DH doesn't think that SS did anything wrong .... that is a huge symptom of the core problem. Many people make excuses for these COD snowflakes and hold that their crappy behavior is not their fault.

While it is true that many of their issues are inherited from mom or dad the fact is that their behavior is their choice and they can either figure out how to overcome their parental baggage or fail to resolve those issues for yet another generation. The process of accountability and overcoming mommy and daddy issues so they do not remain the kid's issue needs to start early and the only way I know of to get the process started is to hold the kid accountable for his chosen behaviors.

In this instance I am going with the perspective that the kid knew exactly what he was doing when he parroted BM's toxic crap.

Well, here's my take on it:

If BM didn't play these games in the first place, this never would have happened.

I feel like many separated parents often times don't take their children into consideration and end up forfeiting their children's other relationships and well being to make a point.

When it comes down to the all mighty dollar everyone loses, but mostly her kid. So she may have won over favor of DH's Stepdad and the other scout mom's but it was at SS's expense.

I hope it was worth it. The sick thing, is that to her, it probably was.

He's a kid, should he have done it? Probably not. But he's a kid. He's a product of his environment which he is powerless to control(which in this case refers to BM not using CS to buy his uniform for an activity she signed him up for and then laying the blame on DH).

If I were DH I would hold the line. This has now turned into a pissing match and now she thinks she's got DH right where she wants him-and she used her kid to do it. Sick woman.

I would also make it very clear to SS that DH will purchase what he needs for any activities that DH signs him up for, anything that BM chooses to sign him up for will be her responsibility. Then I wouldn't say another word about it. He doesn't need to be in the middle of his parent's BS. SS does need to understand that he's not Daddy Warbucks or BM's ATM.