Had I not read the incident you recount, I would have said that, Yes, my skid is gross. However, having read what yours did, I would have to say that my skid is merely esthetically unpleasing.

Yours is f@cking gross. Cook separate meals for yourself, let DH cook for this pukeslob and eat the stuff, too, if he doesn't mind it.

My SS's new thing is sitting so that the crack of his behind is ON the toilet seat. Guess what happens then?

He has a new chore-he cleans his bathroom 2x per week.

Yes, I once heard mine blow booger rockets in the shower. Gross. By the way she's 14 and female. SO told me his own mother does it too. Seriously WTF?? They landed on the wall too and I made SO clean it as I knew she would half ass it

I'd say most kids are at least a little gross in general... but that's just plain disgusting. :jawdrop: At 17 too! My LITTLE ones would never even dare. And DH apologized, wow.... did he end up cooking him a separate meal as well??

Your DH sounds like mine, who totally lost his balls a long time ago.
I would have thrown out the rest too, how gross and rude.

My SS is like your but younger. I do throw food away and I also don't eat when he is around. Your husband is oblivious as is mine and it's actually not funny even having to say something so they take action.

That's one of the reasons I dish up for Aergia, SO thinks I'm being nice, I do it to stop her from eating from the dishes cause she's to lazy to get a plate

What the actual fuck. That is beyond disgusting and rude and a total prick move. I can't believe your DH defended a millisecond of that!

Since your DH thinks it's not a big deal, and it's "just food" The next time you see SS eating something run your finger through and tell him you just wanted a taste. Better yet, run your fucking toe through it and then kick him in the teeth.

Next time DH says it's just food, respond with "it's just sex but you wouldn't waste that or want me to ruin it for you ".

I would have done what Acratopotes said... and then, that's what he would have eaten for the rest of the week.

Are your skids gross?

YES!! And they remain so into their early teens to early twenties.

In general, no.
They (recently) manage to look presentable in public.

However, they use a filthy bathroom. Which can run out of TP, clean towels, and soap and no one does anything about it. Both wear dirty underwear and socks regularly and neither can seem to ask or learn how to do laundry at our home (they apparently do so at BMs). Neither one changes their sheets on their own (it's up to DH to do this).

SD10 doesn't bathe enough (maybe 1x per week and she's starting to smell - she's nearing age 11).
Her hair is often a rats nest (she did ask for a hairbrush for xmas so that's progress). SD10 is washing clothes in the sink for some reason. I don't ask.

SD13 wears dirty clothing all the time, gathers dirty dishware in her room along with mold food, throws all dirty clothes, towels, sheets on the floor instead of washing them. I found a used pad in her room recently, on the floor. She also never brushes her teeth - I predict that she's going to have multiple cavities very soon and that her teeth will start rotting in her mouth within the next 12 months and major dental work will have to take place. She's very pretty - but man, just awful hygiene.

So outwardly not gross most of the time. But in reality? Gross.

My skid still poops himself at the age of 14. Then sits in it...for hours. Then sometimes hides the filth caked underwear around the house.

He wouldn't wash a darn thing on his body or his clothes or him room if we did not absolutely nag him 24/7/365.

I check his room several times per week for any hidden food/wrappers/kitchenware so that we don't have unwanted critters.

He is addicted to porn and banned from any internet while at home. He once did Dog knows what in my room on my bed while watching porn on my tablet before I put passcodes on every piece of electronic internet accessing device.

Is my skid gross?! He absolutely disgusts me!

Utterly disgusting & inappropriate.

Not surprising though...nor is your DH's reaction.

Two similar tales, both involving SD20 who was 16-going-on-17 just like your SS at the time.

1.) I made two Chicken Pot Pies for dinner one night when we had a couple over, plus skids. This is one of the skids favorites that I make, especially the crust which is a puff crust with lots of layers. Really delicious. The first pot pie was gone, so I asked if anyone wanted seconds. Skids had already scarfed and left the table, of course...but our guests said they would love seconds. Went into the kitchen and the ENTIRE top crust of the second pot pie had been picked off and eaten. Embarrassed, I had to tell our guests I was mistaken and we didn't have seconds...but had a good dessert coming! After the dinner, I let my DH have it about the pot pie...and he literally said that he didn't think we should punish SD because I 'didn't tell SD not to" pick all the crust off of the second pot pie. SD16 also picked acne, picked at her face, lips, and fingernails obsessively in general, and was bulimic...so it was especially lovely to know that her grubby, barf-encrusted fingernails had been all over my good food..and that she'd just be throwing it up in an hour. But...don't forget. I didn't tell her not to do it, so what did I expect?

2.) Similar situation. We had some friends / clients over for a business meeting, and I was offering snacks. Listed what I had available, and one expressed interest in some trail mix. Went up to get a bowl of it, only to discover my giant, previously unopened $15+ bag of trail mix from Costco had been opened...and all of the M&Ms, cashews, and almonds had been eaten. I was basically left with a big bag of peanuts and raisins. So, I got a couple bowls of different snacks, told the guests that I was mistaken about the trail mix, and took it up with my DH later. First, he said we didn't know it was SD16. I just looked at him skeptically. Was it him? No? Then it was SD16...as she's the only one of the skids who is weird and picky about food...separates everything. DH didn't see what the big deal was. However, ever the fixer, he brought home a bag of M&M's, a bag of almonds, and a bag of cashews and "remixed" the mix the next day. I told him that was disgusting and that I would not be eating that trail mix or ever setting it out for company. "What's the problem now?" He said, exasperated. I got a bowl of a different snack mix we had to illustrate. Imagine I'm sitting on my skinny, bulimic ass picking all of the good stuff out of this bag of snack mix. Like...all the sesame sticks and garlic toast and leaving all the pretzels and peanuts? I started to pick out the good stuff, making sure that my fingers went inside my mouth fairly frequently and that I licked the salt off of my fingers from time to time...then popped those same fingers right into the bag, rifling through the contents and touching everything trying to find the pieces that I wanted. DH got the point and threw out the trail mix...costing us another $15 in new additives.

Anyway. Long rant. To answer your question...yeah. All my skids are kind of weird and gross. SD20 had the food picking, face picking, and bulimia thing. SS18 used to absent-mindedly crumble his food into bits with his left hand while eating, always leaving just a...whirlwind of food particles by his plate after every meal, and SD16 sucked her thumb well into double-digits (12 or 13 maybe) while holding a stuffed animal close to her nose / mouth, getting it all moist and goopy. Now, SD16 wears the worst clothes (high-waisted jeans, which make her look like an oaf), slouches, and her hair is always really greasy. GROSS.