Quick recap: OSIL and StepMIL keep inviting BM to family outings. Dh told OSIL (main instigator) and FIL that he is married and if they continue to invite BM to stuff then don't invite him because he is not coming. We have not had an invitation to a family function on his side since.

Here is my disclosure statement. Dh has a tablet that he has pretty much turned into a remote for the TV in our room but it still works like a tablet. He has it connected to his Facebook. I didn't go in with the intention of snooping but it turned in to that.

As I am trying to turn the channel on the TV a Facebook notification from his sister says something like "hey, tell OSIL whether you can..." so I thought there was something she needed from DH and I clicked on the notification to see what it was. That's how I found out they were having a birthday party tomorrow. I go to the guest list and see BM is listed as "going". That was earlier this week.

Now I checked it again because DH hasn't said anything to me about it all week so I want to see how things are brewing. A few hours ago he says "we have a different birthday party to go to on the same day so we may show up if we have time." He may or may not have checked the guest list tho, I don't know. So. OSIL responds that StepMIL is in town for the party and that she wants to meet DD6mos. Now I have learned that OSIL just gives no f#cks because StepMIL and MIL are both going. Granted, MIL and StepMIL may not have any issues like BM and I have because by the time StepMIL came in the picture she and FIL were states away and years after the divorce. No drama needed.

It would seem like DH is avoiding going and has no plan on going since the conflicting birthday party is my nephews party that takes place the next day. I am glad he is handling this with no drama. I wish he would have flat said no but he is still learning.