I have never been one to post about my personal life online but I dont really have anyone to talk to about being a stepmom. When I married my DH I was really nervous about being a stepmom but I really fell in love with that little boy. Unfortunatley he lives so far away at most we get to see him once a year. We were paying 2 to 3k to fly to MT just to have him in the summer.

I have since had two more boys and my husband is getting out of the military to move to TX so he can go to college. The other day my husbands ex dropped a bomb on us. Her new husband is also in the military and he will be going to korea for a year so she has decided to also move to TX. I was so happy when she said that yay! But the she followed it up with "We are going to try to move overseas after" that means he could be out of the country for 3 to 6 years!

I looked over the custody papers and because my DH was active duty there are no geographical restrictions on where they can live. My hubby is going for his CRNA and it will take him about 7 years to finish. He said once we get settled we will look into changing the custody agreement now that DH is no longer active duty. However, he is worried about the money. Now im afraid that if she fights us lawyers will get involved and DH wont want to go that far. So we would lose my stepson.

The worst part is that my stepson is having some issues and I really think he needs his father. He is super smart and very sweet but he has a lot of energy and sometime plays to rough with other kids. He gets punished a lot at school and he is only 4. DH had the same problem when he was growing up. I dont know if BM is willing to put the energy into fighting the system.....she is not the brightest crayon in the box.

I know its alot for my first time but like I said I have no one to talk to and I really need to vent.