I know...crazy MILs!!! I am preparing myself to have to say no, I have a hard time with it sometimes.

I don't think DH was talking about getting him for extended time right away after the birth, at least I hope not. I also can't see how that will be fun for SS to hang out with a newborn on his summer vacation.

I don't want to be a nazi about it but I am scared of what it's going to be like recovering and learning all this new stuff with a baby. DH doen't seem worried at all, he and BM split when ss was born, so he was on his own with a newborn while bm was still in the hospital for several weeks, but I know MIL and FIL helped him a TON. DH thinks he's a pro now, but I think he's 14 years rusty!!

We will have to come to a compromise, because he isn't taking paternity leave to play golf with SS for a damn month!!!!

Hi! I replied on your forum post. I did read about your inlaws claiming that you don't do enough for SS. Looks like we are in for one wild ride!

Luckily she confronted DH about it or I would have said, a kid who is here 4 days a month does not have a say in this. And he's darn lucky that daddy has a good job to afford a 4 bedroom house where he can have a room when he's only here 4 days a month.

Ohhh nooo...I would not use kids as a weapon against her, her other son already does that to her!!!

WOW !! Your MIL takes the cake there for picking out paint colors with the kids behind your back.

Orange and yellow.... Lovely!

That is just so over bearing and not her place.

I bet you gave everyone a scare with that fall, I keep getting yelled at to slow down too.

Yup...MIL is grandkid crazy.

I agree that it's a kid thing to start making plans, but when I went to that side of the house to look again, leaving dh with the realator on the other side, that's when I walked in on mil discussing what room should be his and FIL with his tape measure out.

I was thinking.. Wooooooow. How rude. And how stupid that was because we were just looking at the house and nothing at all had been discussed. But it was very typical behavior of MIL.

She's going to smother me when our baby comes.

Thank you, those are very wise words. I remember reading your blog about your crazy MIL trying to kidnap DH when he still needed his physical therapy appointments. My second cousin just had a stroke and my grandmother who is now passed on had one in the 90's ...they are no joke!

I agree with you in regards to the HPV vaccine, damned if we do, damned if we don't!

MIL loves being the hero to save the day anytime she can. Both of her sons are divorced with kids, and her other son held his two kids away from her for over 6 months when he was pissed at her. They are all pretty toxic. Dh and his brother do not speak. The family is just a mess honestly.

And not to forget the fact that we only were able to get this house because my parents let me borrow a portion of the down payment. So if it wasn't for me and my family, this wouldn't have even happened. If she continues to make problems, I will happily tell her that DH and I are on the title, not her and SS14.

Btw, are you the author on stepdigest? I really love reading the articles on there.

*big sigh* Yeah the funny part was that last week my mom suggested that I wash his bed so it was all ready to go for the move, and I didn't say anything because I wasn't going to do it.

Hey she was the one dying all day to go pick SS up, it only figured that she would make his bed for him. She feels like she has a claim in that too because she made his quilt bed spread and the pillow case.

You should have seen me the night after we looked at the house and were deciding to make and offer. I was telling DH that MIL was making all my fears come true.

MIL was stating that since we will live much closer now, she can see the visitation schedule going out the window and it not mattering anymore, and that SS will want to be over all the time, blah blah blah. We were in bed and I was bawling because that was all exactly what I didn't want. We had a big come to jesus talk about what the plans were, and I laid out my fears and expectations to DH because this was a huge decision to make. I was just so emotional and felt so trampled on that I couldn't even house shop alone.

MIL has even offered to take SS to school for DH during the week once his transfer comes in ....

I had to remind her that DH will not be here during the work week since he still works where we are moving from (3 hours away) so there is no reason for SS to come over when DH is not here. And then I dropped the bomb on her that there are now 11 people ahead of DH seniority wise trying to transfer to the offices near our new house. So this transfer is not happening next quarter, AND......DH would be working graveyard weekends when he does get up here being lowest in office seniority....so he would only get SS during the week now and have to get him to school and have even less time with him. The entire thing is very full of "if ands and buts"...

Now she's freaking out about SS's 8th grade graduation, its on a weekday at 9am, when DH doesn't get home till around 8am. This is an entirely different story, and I don't know how DH is going to try to bend over backwards to make it to that, then have work again that night and possibly have traffic court to go to during the day unless he can postpone it, but his office is extremely strict about officers going and he cannot miss it otherwise or they could pull his paperwork for the transfer. MIL just looked at me with bug eyes about it. How the hell is he going to drive 6 hours then have work again that night. Whatever ....I am just not even going to think about it and just hope he doesn't fall asleep at the wheel.