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Unfortunately if YOU are the
Unfortunately if YOU are the one who is sick, I don't think you could justify changing skid weekends. If your husband or the skids were sick then it would be a different story. Of course, I don't know if you're normally super involved in everything the skids do when they visit.
I know if was sick, it wouldn't have any bearing on what goes on with SD7. I'm essentially disengaged so I typically do my own thing when she visits anyway.
Are you able to just stay in your room and get some rest? Do you have earplugs and a good book to read?
I disagree. As a mother, if
I disagree. As a mother, if my kids were slated to go spend the weekend at someone's house (don't care who it is.. dad, grandma, friend etc) I would WANT to know if someone was sick before sending my child into a germ infested lair and I would without a doubt cancel that visit.
With that being said, I know a lot of BMs wouldn't give a hoot, because ya know, they have super important drinking plans or whatever. I also disagree with the fact that she has no say? Why not? It's her house too. If she's sick and doesn't feel well enough to deal with the extra noise, commotion, etc. then she should say so, and it should be taken into consideration.
Good point Daizy. I hadn't
Good point Daizy. I hadn't thought of it from that perspective. I was just thinking that the OP shouldn't have to do much for the skids anyway so if she's sick she could just take it easy whether they are there or not. But you're right......BM or the skids might want to know if someone in the house is sick.
I'm just agreeing that she
I'm just agreeing that she made a point I hadn't considered. With my own situation I'd still do what I said before - I'd suck it up and just keep to myself while the skids came anyway. What goes on with me shouldn't have any bearing on my husband's schedule with the skids.
If a BM made that call, she
If a BM made that call, she would run the risk of having dad file contempt charges against her.
My DH is pretty good about
My DH is pretty good about keeping skids occupied...and they're older (17 and 15...19 year old doesn't come over any more). Still...they are just so loud and annoying and I ache all over, terrible congestion and headache. Wish I felt OK asking to switch or cancel the weekend.
Also. We had them last weekend because their power went out in the snowstorm. Of course I didn't mind...but now, between that and the holiday schedule, we've had them for 7 out of the past 9 weekends. I'd feel ready for a break even if I wasn't sick.
Guess I'll just head to my room and hope for the best
I definitely think you should
I definitely think you should make BM aware that you are ill. Then she can't bitch later about germs, etc etc. plus maybe you will get super lucky and she will decide not to expose skids to your sickness.
Otherwise, you have a perfect built in excuse to hibernate in your room. get some books and some Netflix, take some warm baths, most importantly run a fan for white noise (this makes a HUGE difference for me).
Try and concentrate on feeling better!
Ya'll are right and skids are
Ya'll are right and skids are here. Not so bad. DH suggested that I get in bed and he took skids to dinner.
I don't think your illness
I don't think your illness should compromise your husband's time with his children unless you are so ill that you need him to care for you.