http://www.steptalk.org/node/223648

Quick recap. BM wanted my SO to take 4hrs off work this Wednesday and then go into work 1hr late today so that she could take her two oldest kids to Halloween horror nights (HHN). I was totally against it. We have Skids every weekend. She needs to plan better.

SO didn't hear anything about the topic again until Monday. SD called on BM's phone. She makes them talk on speaker with her standing over them. Anyway, SD asks SO if he is picking them up from school on Wednesday. My SO says no, your mom never got back to me about whether or not your could have your phone back. (SO's stipulation for doing BM the favor was she allows SD to have her cell phone back). BM grabs the phone and tells SO that she doesn't care if SD has the phone. SO asks about SF. SF is the one that said no cell phone. BM admits that SF still doesn't want SD to have the phone. SO tells her he isn't getting involved in their marriage. End phone conversation.

Tuesday, I tell SO he better make sure BM knew for a fact that we aren't getting the kids. I couldn't tell my boss again that I was leaving early because of Skids if BM decided to go anyway and have Skids call SO when they got home from school (she has done this and we had to leave work and get them).....This past Friday SS missed the school bus. No one could get ahold of BM. SO and I had to leave work 2hrs early to go get him at school, which is an hr away. About 10minutes after we left work, BM text SO and just said "You gonna get him, right" NOT "I'm going to get him". She's 10 minutes from school.

SO text BM to remind her that he wasn't getting Skids.

Conversation points that SO relayed to me

BM: Well, I could drop them off at your house at 5pm so you don't miss work (We know HHN doesn’t start until 630 but she originally wanted him to miss half a day of work so she wouldn't have to see Skids at all)
SO: I will still have to miss work on Thursday, and I said I wasn't doing it unless SD got her phone back
BM: I don't care of SD has the phone
SO But your husband does. I'm not putting me and Skids in the middle of you two

SO: I'm not in the BM favor giving business anymore
BM: It's not for me, it's for EXSD
SO: We don't have any more fucks to give about EXSD

SO: Why can't you just go this weekend. We have Skids every weekend
BM: Because I'll miss work
SO: It's ok for ME to miss work for you but you can't miss work. WTF

And back and forth. This is just the highlights he gave me. BM ended up getting SF's mom to watch Skids but text SO yesterday that because he wouldn't do this for her that now SD can NEVER have a phone. (it was said she could have it back when she was 13). SD is already mad at BM because her older brother and sister had a cell phone at her age. I'm sure she's really pissed now that BM said she can NEVER have one. LOL