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Therapy Umm I think not

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Submitted by Stepmom09 on Wed, 09/30/2015 - 11:36am

BM brought up all of us (DH, me, BM, and her husband) going to therapy together. NO I personally have no interest in being in a room with either one of them. A therapist (therapist A) DH and I talk to recommend that DH join a therapy group for men abused by women. SS old therapist (therapist Dirol brought up group therapy for all of us. I am still shocked by it. If DH had abused BM there is no way in hell any mental health professional would recommend they go to therapy together. Why is everything ass backwards when it comes to a man being abused. As well as, therapist A state that BM's behavior towards me can be considered abuse. She has made inappropriate comments and questions about things that are none of her business. Not to mention that her husband has gotten physical with both DH and I. Yup I will be listening to therapist A that strongly believes it is not an ok situation for DH and I to do anything with them face to face.

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Indigo's picture

Submitted by Indigo on Wed, 09/30/2015 - 11:54am

Kumbaya, my Lord ... kumbaya. Perhaps this is the same therapist who suggested that DH apologize for SM's comments after SM already had owned her behavior.

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Submitted by Cadence on Wed, 09/30/2015 - 12:06pm

There is no family for group therapy. You and DH can go to marital counseling, and BM and SD can go to marital counseling. To suggest that there is an existing common relationship linking you all other than the project management of doing what is legally required to raise skids to age 18 is quite ridiculous.

BM just wants to be on a couch with DH, and have everyone listen to her troubles so she can be the center of attention.

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Submitted by Toastergirl on Wed, 09/30/2015 - 12:43pm

"BM just wants to be on a couch with DH, and have everyone listen to her troubles so she can be the center of attention."

^^^^^^THIS!!!!

She wants to hear herself talk and rationalize her poor parenting decisions. I would rather slam my head repeatedly with the DSM 4 for an hour than hear Dr. Evil lament about her stupid woes.

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Submitted by robin333 on Wed, 09/30/2015 - 1:10pm

There's no way I would do it. I still don't understand the rationale for all the parents to go to therapy together. I believe in staying away from crazy whenever possible.

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Submitted by MommyMayI on Wed, 09/30/2015 - 2:39pm

We are finishing up family therapy. We only did it because it was court ordered. Honestly, things are better. The therapist didn't take sides and he didn't put blame. He helped dh and bm communicate better. Bm is still screwed up but it definitely helped me and DH. I think you and DH should go to a therapist who is specialized in divorce.

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Submitted by misSTEP on Wed, 09/30/2015 - 3:04pm

I offered to go to therapy with BM and DH. BM put the kibosh on that. She wanted it to be just her and DH, natch. I thought that since DH and I were married and BM was single, it would be more beneficial for all of us to go together than just her and DH.