Quick question
Next year is bm's week for spring break. She is supposed to pick him up on Monday morning and keep ss through her weekend. Well, last night during their parent meeting bm asked dh if she could have ss9 on the Sunday before so she could go to Hawaii. Dh said she would think about it. We looked on the calendar and that is our daughter's third bday and we have plans for a camping trip that same weekend. Dh told her that she could pick up ss at 830 pm rather than on the next morning. Bm flipped out saying she isn't going to go if she can only spend five days there and that she really wants him the Friday before. Bm is flipping out. Could she take us to court over this? Dh doesn't care if ss goes but she can pick him up after we get back.
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Well dh can't fight her on
Well dh can't fight her on that and we wouldn't want to but it's his sister's birthday so we have something planned.
See I would use this as an
See I would use this as an opportunity to get rid of skid and have a skidless birthday party for your bio. I didn't want skid at my BS1 birthday so I would have loved this opportunity. I feel like whenever skid is around and we have family over, all the attention goes to him.
I do feel a bit sorry for BM,
I do feel a bit sorry for BM, it isn't like she is coming to you about this with two weeks before she wants the change. You guys clearly plan well ahead.
You are obviously within your rights and if you wanted to insist that SS stays for his sisters birthday then that is fine and won't affect anything in court. Equally, considering the option of him missing it and going to Hawaii with his mom should be given it's place. How often does he get that sort of opportunity? Is his sister really going to remember her 3rd birthday party and the fact that her brother wasn't there?
Do what you want, but don't immediately dismiss the idea of him going is all I am saying. Plus as said above, it gives you one less child to worry about and more time to focus on your daughter while camping.
As we said. We would like for
As we said. We would like for him to go and dh is willing to give him to her early. That would give her seven full days before he needs to return to school. And a third birthday is big. They only happen once and should not be looked over. I can understand if dh says no you can't go but she gets the whole week and the following weekend.
Because we aren't doing a
Because we aren't doing a party. We are camping in Yellowstone and it takes a really long time to get reservations for there. And once again we are giving in. Bm wanted to leave Sunday morning but we won't be back until Sunday night so dh said she could have him early. I think this is a good compromise. He could have said screw you, go on your own time, but he is working with her and compromising on a time. Also, her dad is from Hawaii, they can go any time. Maybe I should have said that earlier.
And why can't they go? She
And why can't they go? She has 7 days with him. Go for the week. Have fun
I really don't see the big deal.
I'd say let him go to Hawaii
I'd say let him go to Hawaii with BM to see Grandpa and enjoy the camping trip with just the three of you.
No there won't be another 3rd birthday but you will come out of this looking like the bad guys. All BM has to say is would you rather go to Hawaii and see Grandpa or go camping? Unless he's a real outdoorsy kid he's going to resent not being able to go. Then it will be your fault he can't go to Hawaii.
Therapist says ss needs to be
Therapist says ss needs to be able to do both that both vacations are important. I agree. Hawaii and camping it is.