I'm working from home today, my husband is at the office, my stepdaughter is here (she's 12). I get a text from my husband "will you walk her to the pool"? (his daughter)

I was puzzled since we can see the community pool from our kitchen window. She has been walking there meeting friends and other families our neighbors, for years. We've never walked her there unless she was swimming by herself, then of course we come. So I texted my husband "she's meeting XXX there, is everything okay? why do I need to walk her"? He didn't respond and my stepdaughter was getting ancy. I could have just done it but I figured something must have happened so I called him and here's our conversation pretty much word for word.

me, hey so what's up? she's always walked by herself.

him, I know but itd help me out of you just did it.

me, why? did something happen? anything I should no about?

him, her mom asked me to.

me, silence. then I say "do you think it's necessary? have you changed your mind after all these years?

him, no I think its fine but I told her mom I would.

me, okay here's the thing. she told you to do it not me and you said you'd do it not that I'd do it. since you don't think its necessary for your daughters safety but you told your ex you'd do what she demands of you its up to you to do it. not me.

him, are you suggesting I come home just to walk her 25 yards to the pool? that's ridiculous

me, yes or you have another option, tell your ex to stop intruding on your parenting time.

him, silence

me, you can participate in this with your ex if you want but I'm not doing it anymore. please respect my boundaries and don't pass her "orders" on to me again.

him, okay then. but atleast I was honest I could've just lied to you and told you it was my idea not hers.

me, yes you could choose to lie to your WIFE to do the bidding of your EX. why would you do that when you say you want your ex out of your life?

him, got it. I have to go..

We said bye and hung up. I was shaking! I didn't walk her to the pool. She asked why she couldn't go by herself as always and I told her to ask her dad.

he and I texted after that about what to do for dinner and things seemed normal so I hope we'll just go forward from here. I have to set my boundaries even if he won't. especially if he won't!