I DON'T GET IT!!!!!
I feel like I say this a lot, but I don't get it. Today we are supposed to pick up the skids and of course bm is causing trouble. Her latest? Since dh wants to follow the visitation to a t she will not be sending clothes with them. So she is going to refuse clothes to her kids because the little brat didn't get her way? She has been trying to get dh to give up this weekend ever since he would not take the kids on Mother's Day. WTF, woman? I wish I could punch you in the face!!! The clothes have always gone freely, I don't mind us buying clothes for over here (and we have in the past) but for her to all of a sudden not send clothes for her children without at least some kind of notice? I hate her!!!! I hate her!!!! I detest the very ground her ass walks on. I wish her nothing but hell!
So why are we following visitation to a t? Because 1) she had all the power before and we can't have her springing stuff on us 2) we are trying to keep the skids away from her three skids!!!! We are protecting children and she wants to whine and be a stupid sob because she isn't getting her way. Well your highness you and all your effin bs can jump off a mother flippin cliff! Eff off! I wish you were out of our lives for good! Be a mom and stop hurting your kids!
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sounds like your sticking to
You won't switch and if she wants to throw a fit because she didn't get her way I say HAVE AT IT BM!
Because you know who the kids remember being irrational, the one who sends them without clothes, because she is punishing them, not you and DH.
And they will remember that for the rest of their lives!
Might be fun to run to Walmart/Target and pick out some fun clothes for the weekend!
We will be getting them
We will be getting them clothes and I'm bagging up every piece of clothing they have and sending it with them home. Their mother is horrible! Dh tried to rationalize with her and said she was only hurting the kids. I have been documenting everything she has been doing and we are saving text messages, she is an awful mother! I really hope she gets her ass handed to her when we go back to court because that is where this is headed.
Send them home in the same
Send them home in the same outfit you got them in (washed of course) and keep any clothes you bought them at your place.
I had never heard of crap like this until I became a "soon to be step mom". When the skids come over looking like crap I thought maybe she was doing it on purpose but nope, turns out, that is just what they look like.
Exactly! I honestly am beside
Exactly! I honestly am beside myself with how childish she is. She was controlling during their marriage and emotionally and verbally abused dh. It has been a long road getting him to stand up for himself but he knows that failure would mean sacrificing our marriage and letting that twit run his life (because I wouldn't stand for it). Why hurt your kids? I hope they see her for the monster she is. She is a sm too and I hope her bm pulls this same shit and worse on her!
We are but the great part is
We are but the great part is dh gets paid once a month and everything is budgeted for and she knows that. Telling us without any notice is bs. I don't mind having clothes but this is a power play and she fir the sake of her kids should of gave us notice. More explosive behavior that she thought up as soon as dh asked her to pack swimwear.
Don't most kids have clothes
Don't most kids have clothes at both houses? It's written right in our CO that each parent is responsible to keep a supply of clothes at their house for SD except for items such as snowsuits that aren't really feasible to have duplicates of.
I honestly don't know but
I honestly don't know but clothes have always gone freely. Whatever we buy we just bag up and send their too, it's never been an issue. This is her attempt at control and we are not giving in. The point is she is knowingly sending her kids without clothes when it's already too late for dh to get any before pickup (a 4 hr trip, his original punishment to sticking to co).
Yeah having control freaks
Yeah having control freaks for BMs is no fun. Good for you for not playing her games.
Best thing that could of
Best thing that could of happened. Now it's even a cleaner break from her!
Have clothes at both homes, follow the court order. No texting, only email. Done! Life becomes less stressful.
That BM would not get a
That BM would not get a reaction out of me no matter what hardship is attempted. No clothes? No big deal. Hand out Dad's tee shirt's for night shirts to sleep in. Wash their clothing tonight for fresh tomorrow. Tomorrow you can swing by the resale/goodwill or look in the paper for a garage sale with the gender/size clothing you need. Swing by Walmart or whatever and buy some undies. It'll get you through the weekend.
Then you'll have plenty of time to prepare more stuff for their next visit arrives and more time to do some comparison shopping. It'll be ok. One weekend a bit untraditional for the kids won't hurt them. Hell, hand out the tee shirts, pop some popcorn put in a dvd and have a slumber party out in the livingroom. Go for it. Have fun with it. BM shall not over come their visit no matter what shit she tries to trash the visit with.