Conversation with a co-worker.
He is an older man maybe 55?
Me: How was your weekend
CW: Horrible
Me: Really why
CW: We had to drive down to Miami and take care of my SD and her liberal BF
Me: O, that sucks
CW: Yeah, if I wanted to be taking care of kids at my age, I would have had my own. She's in her 30's and can't get her act together
Poor guy, I starting to think it's worse when Skids are adults. You expect more from adults.
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I hope your DH supports you
I hope your DH supports you on the "out by 18 rule"..my DH had said all along that once his kids and mine were 18, they needed to be out on their own. Well, although she's been staying with her boyfriend, my OSD is 21 and all her belongings and her mailing address is still here..now DH is using the "i'm only helping her out while she's in college" excuse. Which, nice that he's being supportive, but my OSD is taking advantage of his help, and using our home as a storage unit/post office. Good Luck lol
When I first joined the
When I first joined the military and moved to another state, my parents had to send me my mail. I didn't know about change of address forms.
I understand that when you're
I understand that when you're in the military. I know my mailing address statement probably came off as totally ridiculous...it's just that SD21 isn't much better than a child/teenager. And DH hasn't made any attempts in at least trying to help her launch..it just ended up being that our home became a "backup or vacation home" in case things fell apart with her boyfriend. She tells everyone she lives with him..so why not fill out the change of address form??? Because, she doesn't wanna grow up and make it permanent. So, again, I really didn't mean to come off as a horse's ass.
I totally get it. The "Mail"
I totally get it. The "Mail" is just a symptom of a larger issue.
Yes!! I guess I should've
Yes!! I guess I should've explained that more instead of looking like a petty fool lol. The mail would be completely irrelevant to me if it weren't for a couple of things...SD21 texts here every few days, asking if she got anything that looked important in the mail..like I'm her darn secretary..after the first couple of times, I just started ignoring her..i figured, "if you wanna know what you got, change your address" lol..and because just a few weeks ago, I heard her boyfriend ask her why she didn't fill out a change of address form and her response was "well, what if things don't work out with us? Plus, I plan on moving back in to dad's temporarily, anytime SD17(my out of state skid) comes to visit"..those things really made me believe the whole "mailing address" thing was, like you said, part of a larger issue.
I'm sorry, I really didn't
I'm sorry, I really didn't mean to offend you. Honestly, I was just trying to point a finger at my DH for not sticking by his "out by 18 rule"..it's not just her mail. If not for her boyfriend (actually, I should say her boyfriend's dad), she'd still be living here. Again, I apologize for offending you.
I'm thinking the same
I'm thinking the same thing..adult skids may be worse.. SD17 is a brat...but I've come to realize, most teenagers are..it's just more annoying with her because unlike my BS14, I can't control SD17. BUT..SD21 is a different story...although I'm extremely thankful that she's been spending the last month or two with her boyfriend..she's still failing to launch as far as being an adult. Yes, she could be worse..at least she's going to college and has a part time job..but she has no clue how to save money and I honestly believe she has no plans of ever finding her own home. Right now she's with the boyfriend but they live with his dad...and 90% of her belongings are still here and so is her mailing address. She has one more year of college left (she'd be done by now but has changed her major 3 times..she's going on being in college for almost 4 years working on a 2 year degree lol). She's been complaining that by staying with her BF and his dad, that she has "too many chores to do"..she's expecting her BF's dad to pay for everything and then gets mad because they ask her to wash dishes. I told my DH that she no longer needs to use us as a storage unit/post office after she's done with school. By then, she should be working on getting her own place or moving all of her stuff into her boyfriends's house. She may not be my kid..I can't tell her how to run her life. But this is my house and by the time she graduates from college, she no longer needs to use my house as a backup plan if things don't work out with her boyfriend.
If things are like that when
If things are like that when SD is older, I will have to leave. I am hoping I only have a few more years. If not, I cant handle it any longer. The light at the end of my tunnel is near, it cant get longer!