DH's son likes me for the time being. He has always been the easiest of the two kids. I think he will either have positive things to say or neutral things to say.

He blamed BM for DH leaving her. He said it was because she yelled too much. He was a lot younger when he said that but for the time being, he still seems to see her as kind of a drag. This could go two ways in the future. Either he will completely write her off (she is a whack job so it could happen) or he could succumb to her guilt trips, manipulation, threats, etc and just resign himself into complying with her to avoid conflict. In that case, he will be a VERY unhappy man. DH took that path regarding his own parents and regrets every day of letting them squash his spirit.

DH's daughter. I don't actually care. I suspect as she matures she will be able to recognize PAS and the part her mom played in it. My mom alienated me from my dad when I was her age and I didn't fully get it until I was in my twenties. She could come around and that would be great for DH. The complicating factor that makes her different from me is that my parents stayed married. I didn't have a scapegoat to blame my mom's problems on. I think there is a good chance that she could always put the blame on me rather than seeing her mom for who she is. But that won't affect me one bit once she's an adult.

My dh's BM is an awful person and is known for her dramatic fits (I'm talking fits like a five year old). The skids witnessed her and dh get in some awful fights while growing up and now that she's remarried they are seeing it again. Their mother is a manipulator and hypocrite, and while I believe that skids will love their mother, I think they will see and know her for who she truly is.

I think the skids will see their Dad as I and they do now, a loving father. As far as how they will feel about me depends on the kid. The SD9 and I are real close and we have lots of girl talk, activities, and fun together, so unless she is just crazy during her teenage years I foresee us always being close. SS11 and I have nothing in common and he flat out disrespects me sometimes, I think this relationship will get much much worse as he gets older and that we will probably not be on speaking terms. SD5 it's too early to tell but I am disengaged from her for the most part and only make comments when she is tearing up my stuff. To me she is whiny and bossy (might be a 5 year old thing, might be who she is going to be) but as of right now she's a brat and I can't stand her. All in all I think the girls will think they had a good childhood and the boy will continue down his woe is me path and think life is a disaster.

They will say what they say I think. Classy is the fun one, BM is the dumb, wears empty box of wine on head when home and that DH is furry, fat and mean!

I think former SS7 will say his childhood was amazing and have great memories, including of the 5 years I was there as a SM.

Chucky will complain I made him have rules and stopped him beheading his "friends". I am not sure he will be out of granny's ass even by the age of 40.

Truth:

I think my skids will say : "you loved me as much as you loved your own, you took care of me and were an amazing mom, and always loved to do little special things for us and always put us first"

But my skids are amazing, and I do pour my whole heart and soul into them.

What will skids say about me..... I think OSD will say. "See I was right about dad and his new BITCH". SS would still be calling asking for a place to live then calling us asshole and bitch. YSD, not sure since she is hot and cold when it comes to me and her dad. Sometimes she loves us and sometimes she hates us. Right now she is spending A LOT of time with MOTY. So I would say right now she will hate us and I ruined their family.

I am not sure what they will say about MOTY since she has swooped in as they became adults in hopes of showing DH that she has changed and is MOTY now and tries to help skids by buying them.

My DD will say she loves me and knows I tried my best for her. She will say she loves DH and he helped her a lot.