My parents think my wife hung the moon, they love my Skid as their own G-Kid and they are highly concerned that SS-18 is in for a long hard and painful road to viable adulthood.
He drives them as nucking futz as he does his mom and I and they too are counting the days until he reports to basic training because they think it is the best thing for him. None of us actually want him gone though I believe his life will be better and so will mine and his mothers.
My mother can't believe that the SpermClan is as bad as I make them out to be but my dad has no doubt that they are toothless morons. When he asks about them he says "any news from the toothless Oregonians".
I laugh every time he asks then launch in to the latest updates.
They are concerned about my wife and how she will ultimately deal with having dedicated her entire adult life and her late childhood to raising SS and providing him with every opportunity and life advantage possible while he has chosen to ignore what she had given him.
They think my wife and I have a great marriage and enjoy spending time with us together. My wife and mom are best friends on many levels. My wife and I my dad enjoy each others sense of humor and enjoy bantering with each other.
i do every thing i can to keep skids and my family completely apart these days. my sees all the bullshit i go thru b/c of them so she really doesn't think much of them except how my skid w/e's are ruined and how she hates what a bad mood they put me in. my dad has only seen them a few times, but still gets them christmas gifts. as far as the rest of the family i have finally convinced them to quit buying anything for the skids.
and if we have any family celebration/party/reunion of any sort when we are sentenced to skid visitation, i cancel or get mil to watch skids.
My parents genuinely love my husband. They think that he is a very nice and is very respectful, which in our culture means alot.
My mother raised her stepkids like her own - so she has no problem with my situation. BUT in her situation the bio-mom died only a few months after giving birth to my stepbrother - so he was VERY accepting to having a stepmother and their father let her discipline the kids like they were her own.
She said that when my stepbrother found out that she and his dad were getting married that he went to school and told everyone that he had a mom now too. Of course this brought tears to my moms eyes and since then I think that he has been one of her favorite kids. It doesn't hurt that he really is a great guy to be around - the nicest young man who is incredibly nice.
My dad didn't have a problem with it because he likes my husband. My own stepmother did raise concerns - BUT that wasn't because she didn't love her stepkids because she has been more then fantastic to all of us. But because she had to deal with a psycho ex-wife herself. Not my mom - but his other ex-wife. My stepmother was young and beautiful and so I think that this irked his second wife. Anyhow - my stepmother knew what I was possibly going to be dealing with before I did.
My parents think DH is great. He's a lot like my dad. They were worried in the beginning and they weren't sure that I should be getting involved with somebody with kids. They see how happy we are though and they like the skids. They don't love them as their own, but they buy them presents and are welcoming. I worry a bit because I know they will spoil and adore my biochild. I guess skids have 3 sets of grandparents to spoil and adore them though.
My mom was excited to have another grandson! Even though he is my SS. My brother and sisters kids already call him cousin! I guess it might be rare but my family has welcomed him. I vent to my mom cause she is so much support and her wisdom often gives me new perspective. My sister help alot since she has 2 skids 16 and 18 whose mom left when the youngest was 1. You need all the support you can get!
I talk to my mom a lot about my issues with BM and furture MIL. My own SD teases me regulary about how involved BM is with his family. My mom however is a stepmom of 3, and still has 2 bios who have visitation with their father. The oldest kid is 16. So not only has she been through this all already, but is still going through it in most regards and really offers me great advice. She was also the one who told me about this site!
All of my family, my parents, stepparents and siblings (step included) treat my SS4 like my own kid. In fact, my cousins have asked me why my SS doesn't call me mom, instead of by my name. My mom and stepmom are especially great about making sure gifting is always equal for holidays, like christmas. My dad and stepmom live kinda far, so they haven't done gifts for SS4's birthday, but then again we've never invited them for a party. They showed up for my D's 1st birthday with gifts. My mom goes one step further and still had a present for SS's last birthday.
Overall, my family is very amazing and has never indicated SS as an outsider, but as a part of the family.
My mom avoids SS13 as much as possible. She thinks he is rude and disrespectful and she can't understand why DH does nothing to correct the behavior! She always gets SS a gift for whatever holiday is approaching. She gives my BD much more but she does it behind the scenes. SS has never thanked her for a single gift!!
After Christmas last year, in front of my mom, SS says you know what I just realized? Uncle "bob" didn't give me a gift! :jawdrop: WTF..he hadn't even met my brother because he lives out of state!!
My mother feels my SS is spoiled and hard to deal with. She really tries to include him, and to be nice to him..but it strains her. She's strict, I'm strict, my children know their manners etc etc...so it's obtrusive to my mother to have this large, yelling, demanding, lying child in her midst.
My parents like my bf, and his parents also really like me. My parents have been around SD only a few times-and there was no craziness-my mom knows a bit more about the BM and her antics and the effects on SD and feels really bad about the situation.
However, she still feels the bf and the relationship we have and his positive effect on my bios is good and worth the "bagagge" that comes with my bf>
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My parents dislike NN and
My parents dislike NN and have only met his kids once.
My mother thinks that I talk too much about skids and BM and not enough about DS.
My parents think my wife hung
My parents think my wife hung the moon, they love my Skid as their own G-Kid and they are highly concerned that SS-18 is in for a long hard and painful road to viable adulthood.
He drives them as nucking futz as he does his mom and I and they too are counting the days until he reports to basic training because they think it is the best thing for him. None of us actually want him gone though I believe his life will be better and so will mine and his mothers.
My mother can't believe that the SpermClan is as bad as I make them out to be but my dad has no doubt that they are toothless morons. When he asks about them he says "any news from the toothless Oregonians".
I laugh every time he asks then launch in to the latest updates.
They are concerned about my wife and how she will ultimately deal with having dedicated her entire adult life and her late childhood to raising SS and providing him with every opportunity and life advantage possible while he has chosen to ignore what she had given him.
They think my wife and I have a great marriage and enjoy spending time with us together. My wife and mom are best friends on many levels. My wife and I my dad enjoy each others sense of humor and enjoy bantering with each other.
That’s about it.
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i do every thing i can to
i do every thing i can to keep skids and my family completely apart these days. my sees all the bullshit i go thru b/c of them so she really doesn't think much of them except how my skid w/e's are ruined and how she hates what a bad mood they put me in. my dad has only seen them a few times, but still gets them christmas gifts. as far as the rest of the family i have finally convinced them to quit buying anything for the skids.
and if we have any family celebration/party/reunion of any sort when we are sentenced to skid visitation, i cancel or get mil to watch skids.
My parents genuinely love my
My parents genuinely love my husband. They think that he is a very nice and is very respectful, which in our culture means alot.
My mother raised her stepkids like her own - so she has no problem with my situation. BUT in her situation the bio-mom died only a few months after giving birth to my stepbrother - so he was VERY accepting to having a stepmother and their father let her discipline the kids like they were her own.
She said that when my stepbrother found out that she and his dad were getting married that he went to school and told everyone that he had a mom now too. Of course this brought tears to my moms eyes and since then I think that he has been one of her favorite kids. It doesn't hurt that he really is a great guy to be around - the nicest young man who is incredibly nice.
My dad didn't have a problem with it because he likes my husband. My own stepmother did raise concerns - BUT that wasn't because she didn't love her stepkids because she has been more then fantastic to all of us. But because she had to deal with a psycho ex-wife herself. Not my mom - but his other ex-wife. My stepmother was young and beautiful and so I think that this irked his second wife. Anyhow - my stepmother knew what I was possibly going to be dealing with before I did.
My parents think DH is great.
My parents think DH is great. He's a lot like my dad. They were worried in the beginning and they weren't sure that I should be getting involved with somebody with kids. They see how happy we are though and they like the skids. They don't love them as their own, but they buy them presents and are welcoming. I worry a bit because I know they will spoil and adore my biochild. I guess skids have 3 sets of grandparents to spoil and adore them though.
My mom was excited to have
My mom was excited to have another grandson! Even though he is my SS. My brother and sisters kids already call him cousin! I guess it might be rare but my family has welcomed him. I vent to my mom cause she is so much support and her wisdom often gives me new perspective. My sister help alot since she has 2 skids 16 and 18 whose mom left when the youngest was 1. You need all the support you can get!
I talk to my mom a lot about
I talk to my mom a lot about my issues with BM and furture MIL. My own SD teases me regulary about how involved BM is with his family. My mom however is a stepmom of 3, and still has 2 bios who have visitation with their father. The oldest kid is 16. So not only has she been through this all already, but is still going through it in most regards and really offers me great advice. She was also the one who told me about this site!
All of my family, my parents, stepparents and siblings (step included) treat my SS4 like my own kid. In fact, my cousins have asked me why my SS doesn't call me mom, instead of by my name. My mom and stepmom are especially great about making sure gifting is always equal for holidays, like christmas. My dad and stepmom live kinda far, so they haven't done gifts for SS4's birthday, but then again we've never invited them for a party. They showed up for my D's 1st birthday with gifts. My mom goes one step further and still had a present for SS's last birthday.
Overall, my family is very amazing and has never indicated SS as an outsider, but as a part of the family.
My mom avoids SS13 as much as
My mom avoids SS13 as much as possible. She thinks he is rude and disrespectful and she can't understand why DH does nothing to correct the behavior! She always gets SS a gift for whatever holiday is approaching. She gives my BD much more but she does it behind the scenes. SS has never thanked her for a single gift!!
After Christmas last year, in front of my mom, SS says you know what I just realized? Uncle "bob" didn't give me a gift! :jawdrop: WTF..he hadn't even met my brother because he lives out of state!!
My mother feels my SS is
My mother feels my SS is spoiled and hard to deal with. She really tries to include him, and to be nice to him..but it strains her. She's strict, I'm strict, my children know their manners etc etc...so it's obtrusive to my mother to have this large, yelling, demanding, lying child in her midst.
My parents like my bf, and
My parents like my bf, and his parents also really like me. My parents have been around SD only a few times-and there was no craziness-my mom knows a bit more about the BM and her antics and the effects on SD and feels really bad about the situation.
However, she still feels the bf and the relationship we have and his positive effect on my bios is good and worth the "bagagge" that comes with my bf>