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Just curious...what would you do if your skid called you a bitch?

boogeymom's picture

Cuz that's what happened to me tonight. Happy 40th birthday, DH, SS13 is now a bona-fide monster! It didn't end there, once we got home (yes, we were in public), he proceeded to tell DH that he is not his real father, and actually told DH that WE owed HIM an apology for getting livid and he did nothing wrong. This was after we got home...after spending 30 minutes looking for him in the dark neighborhood because he ran away from the vehicle after telling us to shut up because we told him we were sick of his and SS11's antics that they were repeatedly told to stop doing, but kept on as if we didn't even exist, and that's why it escalated to DH yelling at them. I can't wait until these little a-holes run off and tell their mom/grandparents what happened, because I would bet my entire bank account, plus the next year of my earnings, he forgets to mention the part where he called me a bitch. I DARE BM to get up in arms about that. I just DARE her...

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IAmALady77's picture

Let him run away, call the police and have THEM hunt him down and put the fear of God in him when they tell him what actually happens to runaway children...you know, they could be kidnapped in a sex traffic ring or something of that sort.

boogeymom's picture

Ooooooh, calling the cops on HIM! I didn't think of that one! I'm pretty sure it'll happen again, so maybe the next time I'll do that. My mom had to do that for my brother one time when he was 10, the cops absolutely put the fear of God into him.

princessmofo's picture

^^^^I agree with calling the cops^^^^^^^^ It'll scare the crap out of him and set him straight. Be sure and tell the police you "fear for his safety, and think he might do harm to himself or others" }:)

tryingmom's picture

A couple of years ago SS13 did the running away thing after a blow up about him not following rules. This boy has no fear of parents OR police. We had to call the police because we could not find him. A neighbor around the corner found him and walked him home, the police were waiting there for him. He did not pay an ounce of attention to the police woman who arrived at the house. She made him sit on the curb and read him the riot act. He pulled at blades of grass and ignored her. She told him if he ran away again, he was old enough to go to juvie and that she'd have no problem bringing him there herself. No response, no reaction, nothing from the punk. The police officer told him that if he was her child there would be a belt in his near future and that he'd have problems sitting. Still no response.

He told BM the story, or his version of the story. BM did what we all know they do best....called to complain about me. I wasn't involved in the discussion of not following the rules, I wasn't even in the room. BUT, I was to blame. She also made a huge point of finding out the police officer's name to read her the riot act. LOL
DH handled BM's BS, told her that she created this monster with her "friend parenting" and that she will be the one that would deal with the mess if he ever ended up in juvie. SS didn't come for visitation for a month as BM ramped up the PAS. Not a problem for us, we just went on with our lives as usual. SS came for visitation after a similar issue at BMs, he needed a break from his "bitch" of a mother. }:)

sandy1234's picture

Popped him right in his GD mouth. And since you didn't that surprises me witht eh fact DH let someone talk to his WIFE that way. DH and I have already discussed it(I was worried about when SS gets older and starts this crap, thanks to your stories hahaha) and he said, "Um, I would beat his ass for disrespecting MY WIFE that way."

And that's exactly how it ought to be.

clydella's picture

SD did, but not to my face, it was on FB, she's a coward. I loved it, she let her weakness shine thru and showed everyone how pathetic she really is and as I've said before, I wear my Bitch hat proudly }:)

Shook's picture

Sorry it took a turn for the worse on your plans last night.
But if my SS, BM & SS's older called me a bitch, that would be positive. I've been called every name in the book by them. And our SS is 3 years older than yours. You need to have DH call him on it & call BM on it, chances are he learns from her too.

boogeymom's picture

Oh, he called him out all right. DH may not let him back into the house for a while because he is EXTREMELY pissed off. If he had actually been through anything at all, I could understand, but the problem is that he has NEVER had to face any real consequences in his life because he always hides behind BM and the grandparents on both sides. He has ZERO accountability, ZERO coping skills, and NO clue about how tough life is going to be when he's an adult because everyone else still wipes his ass for him. BOTH of them have this problem, actually. Their birthdays are both coming up soon, DH has already pretty much indicated he has no intention of doing anything for them since SS11 is just as bad, he just didn't go there by calling me a bitch. I think what I'll probably do is just bide my time until I can really figure out something, but in the meantime, if he thinks I'm a bitch, he's about to SEE a bitch. Their thing is electronics...we'll be living like the Amish next time he's allowed in the house. That's just the beginning.

Shaman29's picture

You think I'm a bitch now?? Wait until I start proving it to you, then you'll know what a real bitch is all about.

Shaman29's picture

My parents used to say the same thing. That and my Mom used to say "I'll slap you to sleep and then slap you for sleeping.

Funny thing about bitches, is that I think there is a difference between a true bitch (like me) and someone who behaves like a bitch.

I used to work with a woman who used to brag about acting like a bitch. All of the time.

She overheard me dealing politely but firmly with a customer and she said she didn't realize I was a bitch too.

I responded with "The difference between you and I is that you behave like a bitch. But I am a true bitch because I don't need to advertise it."

You should have seen the look on her fact.

Shook's picture

Ding ding ding ding Shaman. We had the same parents.
It's akin to people who advertise they're "soooo good looking" online & truth be told later in catfishing.

boogeymom's picture

LOL, that's what I said to him, too! I was like, "I've been holding back. You wanna call me a bitch? You haven't seen a bitch YET!" That's probably why every time he takes it to the level at which I will ACTUALLY get involved with helping DH parent these semen demons, SS13 always says he never wants to come to our house again. He knows I don't play all that.

boogeymom's picture

I sort of hope BM tries to put me in my place, because I'd have NO problem telling her about herself and I would go down to the bone with her.

hismineandours's picture

I havent been called a bitch to my face although I have NO doubts that I have been called that many times behind my back. My ss has also told his dad that he no longer considers him dad. Over a text message. Dh replied ok. He has also "threatened" to run off but has never done so. In fact the one time he threatened to run away, all you heard was crickets. Dh and I both just looked at him. It's like we both wanted to say, "Yes, go for it!" but somehow knew that was not an appropriate parental response so just opted for saying nothing.

I have no relationship with my ss now-havent seen or spoke to him in a year and I anticipate never having one so I cant really say for sure how I'd handle it. I know that its got to flame your fire, because its very disrespectful so the temptation would be to really give a major consequence although I would also be half tempted to just laugh or smile strangely at him just to throw him off balance!

RedWingsFan's picture

I'd laugh my ass off and then let DH know what she said because she always plays all nicey-nice to my face around him!

daniellehand74's picture

I would tell him you don't need to come back to my home until I get an apology and tell your mom to start parenting better.