I've been asking myself the same for the last weeks. Either I feel jaded or awful. I wish I could go to sleep (not a coma, of course) and just wake up a year from now, feeling "normal"!
For me sleep, a cup of tea and/or sex all can help in the short term (I told my husband this formula a long time ago so he is well versed at encouraging me to do one of these when I am down or not myself).
Other things that can help me are getting back into exercising (I must follow my own advise) or an old/new hobby to let myself escape and do something that is purely for me.
Do you know what is making you feel so jaded? Has something in particular been getting you down?
I am def jaded and depressed. When we first got married I had so much energy and I was always doing something. I think it's because I still had my own place. I could still go and be alone or at least not around SD. Now I never feel like doing anything. I clean the house and do laundry...the usual stuff but that's about it. I have to drag myself into the shower anymore...I hate feeling like this.
I miss having my own place. I actually daydream about living with just me and DD. No more mess from DH, no being around SD. Baby can have her own room.
I just want quiet. I want to relax and stop worrying.
I will actually get to get away from Thunderfoot soon! When we move to Florida in the upcoming months, she has to stay here with her gparents while we get settled and get to know the area. I hope she just decides to stay her and finish out school!
Thought there would be this new life/new marriage and blended family.
Found out its more like trying to fit your own life around a schedule set up by the "other marriage" for you and without your input.
Makes your wonder what the stepmother in Cinderella was like before she married Cinderella's dad.
I'm tired.
Tired of the lack of consistency in the rules of the house and enforcement of them.
Tired of being told we aren't going to live according to how BM may feel about something and then spend a lot of time taking about how she will feel.
I'm so beat down...just pick a damned way. I'm to the point where for the skids I'll do it all her way just to have a single way and no fighting.
Tired of watching DH and BM have to involve counselors and lawyers to make decisions about their kids. Seriously?
ExH and I don't have these issues. My relatives don't have these issues. Hell one ex just showed up at a party for our family and the cousin and this ex have been divorced for decades. But the ex was in town and they both are friendly to each other and there no animosity. It was nice to see.
I am slowly but surely having to do a "ME" overhaul. I don't know what I am doing or where I am going, really. All I know is that I have to save myself and my BD from the disaster that is my step life. Since my DH spent so much time letting BM dictate our life, I am SO resentful. So resentful that I don't know if I can ever recover. He is trying, but still can't undo the mess it has caused.
I am happier now than I have ever been in this marriage, however. Not with my DH, but with myself. I dug out of the CRAP that was going on and put my foot down. There are still a bazillion things that I am unhappy with though. I don't like being in this position at all.
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I've been asking myself the
I've been asking myself the same for the last weeks. Either I feel jaded or awful. I wish I could go to sleep (not a coma, of course) and just wake up a year from now, feeling "normal"!
For me sleep, a cup of tea
For me sleep, a cup of tea and/or sex all can help in the short term (I told my husband this formula a long time ago so he is well versed at encouraging me to do one of these when I am down or not myself).
Other things that can help me are getting back into exercising (I must follow my own advise) or an old/new hobby to let myself escape and do something that is purely for me.
Do you know what is making you feel so jaded? Has something in particular been getting you down?
I'm sorry I'm not trying to
I'm sorry I'm not trying to make light of a serious post but...
I read this "or an old/new hobby to let myself escape and do" as or an old/new HUBBY to let myself escape and do. Almost wet myself laughing.
I am def jaded and depressed.
I am def jaded and depressed. When we first got married I had so much energy and I was always doing something. I think it's because I still had my own place. I could still go and be alone or at least not around SD. Now I never feel like doing anything. I clean the house and do laundry...the usual stuff but that's about it. I have to drag myself into the shower anymore...I hate feeling like this.
I miss having my own place. I
I miss having my own place. I actually daydream about living with just me and DD. No more mess from DH, no being around SD. Baby can have her own room.
I just want quiet. I want to relax and stop worrying.
I will actually get to get
I will actually get to get away from Thunderfoot soon! When we move to Florida in the upcoming months, she has to stay here with her gparents while we get settled and get to know the area. I hope she just decides to stay her and finish out school!
I know how you feel and I
I know how you feel and I wish we didn't feel this way
It's sad because if we had
It's sad because if we had actually gone in "evil" we wouldn't be disappointed and broken hearted.
You betcha. Thought there
You betcha.
Thought there would be this new life/new marriage and blended family.
Found out its more like trying to fit your own life around a schedule set up by the "other marriage" for you and without your input.
Makes your wonder what the stepmother in Cinderella was like before she married Cinderella's dad.
I'm tired.
Tired of the lack of consistency in the rules of the house and enforcement of them.
Tired of being told we aren't going to live according to how BM may feel about something and then spend a lot of time taking about how she will feel.
I'm so beat down...just pick a damned way. I'm to the point where for the skids I'll do it all her way just to have a single way and no fighting.
Tired of watching DH and BM have to involve counselors and lawyers to make decisions about their kids. Seriously?
ExH and I don't have these issues. My relatives don't have these issues. Hell one ex just showed up at a party for our family and the cousin and this ex have been divorced for decades. But the ex was in town and they both are friendly to each other and there no animosity. It was nice to see.
Jaded is an understatement.
Jaded is an understatement.
I am slowly but surely having to do a "ME" overhaul. I don't know what I am doing or where I am going, really. All I know is that I have to save myself and my BD from the disaster that is my step life. Since my DH spent so much time letting BM dictate our life, I am SO resentful. So resentful that I don't know if I can ever recover. He is trying, but still can't undo the mess it has caused.
I am happier now than I have ever been in this marriage, however. Not with my DH, but with myself. I dug out of the CRAP that was going on and put my foot down. There are still a bazillion things that I am unhappy with though. I don't like being in this position at all.