Thunderfoot ... I just can't even....
This kid has serious mental issues I am starting to believe. She can not wrap her head around what the term "grounded" means. DH had a very serious talk with her AGAIN on Friday night about her grades. He also went on to tell her that if she didn't pull at least a D out of her ass and pass Geometry...there would be no summer vacation for her. He told her that the 3 of us would go (DH, me and SD13) and she would have to stay with her gparents. She looks at him with that pathetic face of hers and says, "Why would you do that? That is SO mean!" He told her that he didn't reward failure.
A little background on her. She LOVES all things related to ghosts and spirits. For her bday, DH gave her money to get whatever she wanted. We took her to the mall and she bought stupid shit and then wanted HIM to go buy her a Ouija board. I asked her why she didn't buy one with the money he gave her, because she didn't want to spend HER money on it. Well guess you won't be getting one. She is always asking to go someplace haunted. Not a haunted house for Halloween but an actual haunted tour or whatever. I looked those up and the ones I have found are around $100 a person. I don't care to go because I am not into that sort of thing. I also can't justify spending $100 to walk through a "haunted" house...but to each his own.
Yesterday she started asking questions about haunted tours in our area. I told her that I didn't know of any but it's not something I care about so Google it. She looked it up and said, "Where are we located?" What? Kid you are killing me with your stupidity. I showed her where to look and then it began, "Oh these look really cool! I REALLY want to go. Is Daddy ever going to take me?" I just looked at her in awe. I said, "Didn't your dad just talk to you the other night about that F you have? You aren't going to be going anywhere until you pull that up." And she said, "What does my grade have to do with going on a haunted tour?" Because you are GROUNDED!!! WHAT do you NOT understand about that part? Grounded=NO FUN!!! I said, "Those tours aren't free and I don't think DH is going to shell out $100 for you when you can't pull your grades up like he's asked you to do." Her answer of course is that we could go after it's closed and just sneak in. Yeah...you do that kid.
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Wow. She is a few fries short
Wow. She is a few fries short of a happy meal
I don't know if it's because
I don't know if it's because DH usually caves and lets her do whatever she wants or what...but she seriously DOES NOT GET IT!
No I DO NOT want one in my
No I DO NOT want one in my house. I've told her that. DH thinks I am being silly but I told him I don't mess around with that!
She watches Ghost Adventures and I guess that's what she thinks it is all about. DH had said that he would take her. (This was before the whole grade debacle.) I told him that I was NOT going because I don't want to. I just don't. I am not interested in it and quite honestly, it frightens me a little.
LOL Thanks but I will pass. I
LOL Thanks but I will pass. I can think of other things I would rather do with the money spent there!
It will be a MIRACLE if she
It will be a MIRACLE if she passes. I checked her grades the other day and it dropped from a 53 to a 41. Somehow she managed to get a zero on a test. I think you get 10 points just for writing your NAME on it. SO who the hell knows how she managed that grade!
It's going to be a long and boring summer for her...
My SD13 forgets to write her
My SD13 forgets to write her name on everything. I'll see an "incomplete" with her online grades and think, "oops she forgot again!" I reminded her to check her grades online when she was in 6th grade, but now she's in 8th grade and I don't tell her anything. }:) The grades never come up because she doesn't check.
~ Moon
I check the portal
I check the portal religiously now. She doesn't even understand what she is looking at when we showed it to her. Her head is so far in the clouds...it's amazing she can tie her own shoes!
I second not allowing any
I second not allowing any ouija board in your home. I say let her check out some Hans Holzer books from the library to read quietly in her room after she has done her homework.
I'm not even sure she knows
I'm not even sure she knows how to read....Are there pictures in the books? }:)
My sd15 also has this
My sd15 also has this disconnect between actions and consequences and in our case I believe it's because she's never experienced the connection before. Her dad would protect her from consequences all the time. She really has no idea her own actions create reactions. She thinks she operates in a vacuum. Dad has finally gotten the idea he needs to show her the connection but at nearly 16 it's a bit late in the day.
Your post really resonated with me because we heard those exact words a few days ago. "What does my doing homework/getting F in geometry have to with XYZ desirable event you are threatening to take from me?" Uuuuughhghghghgh!
Yes at 16 it's hard to teach
Yes at 16 it's hard to teach them there are consequences for their actions. DH has said, "Babysteps...it's my fault because I never followed through." I get it but some things should just be common sense! That's like her leaving her shoes laying around. My puppy likes to get them and carry them around or chew on them. Well...I hid them from her the other day. They are under the couch in the living room. We have told her over and over to stop leaving them lying around. She hasn't even noticed that they are missing...
She just does the dumbest things! She washes her hair in the sink in the bathroom. Why? I don't know. But it clogs the sink up and she will just continue to use it until it over flows. Do you really need someone to tell you to STOP USING that sink when that happens? I told her to stop washing her damn hair in the sink...use the shower!
How old is she? For us, we
How old is she? For us, we don't tolerate less than a B average for either of the kids. SS and BS. If you have a C, DH makes everything go away. For my BS, a C was the end of the world, so it was not a problem with him. He just got his first D in college and you would have thought the world had ended. I couldn't say a word, even though I was upset and worried about the scholarship.
SS had no interest in school and when we got full custody of him he was at B&C's and the occasional D. DH kept putting a shoe up his butt and made him get agenda's signed by the teacher every day and made him lose his computer and Xbox until the paper was turned in and the grade was posted. This was a daily occurrence and now junior year, he monitors himself pretty good and has a 3.1 GPA. But, every once in awhile, DH still has to come down about a missing assignment. He is trying to do it less and less in order to get him more prepared for college.
Your DH has to make her life hell in order to see that grades are important. If not, be prepared for this kid to never launch.
She is 16 and in 10th grade.
She is 16 and in 10th grade. He has told her over and over that this is where is begins to count. This is the time you need to buckle down and study. She does not give a shit. She wants to be an artist or an actress. She will be flipping burgers at McD's.
I will just give her the
I will just give her the link. I am not buying her anything. She wouldn't read it anyway...that would involve too much work for her!
I've already told her DH is
I've already told her DH is not buying her a Ouija board. He offered to make her one. I told her to do it herself if she wants it so badly. She has plenty of time...ya know when she should be studying...to do that sort of thing.
HAHA! You sound like my type
HAHA! You sound like my type of gal! We are in VA right now. She has apparently been going research for when we move to Florida because she knew there was one in the town we are moving to. "Can we go when we move? PLease please please?" You and DH go and have a blast...my happy ass will be on the beach.
Have you guys gone to Howl O
Have you guys gone to Howl O Scream in Williamsburg?
I have but she wants
I have but she wants something more "realistic". I don't care if DH takes her but not with her grades like they are.