I would have done more than the game system. But, I am the "evil stepmom". Stand your ground. This was disrespectful and why because you are a stepmom is that acceptable. He would be reprimanded and possibly suspended for saying it to a teacher. Do not back down and hide the xbox for a week and don't let DH give it back. He needs ramifications or he will continue. I removed the satellite chip one time from BS for talking back and he never said that to me again.

Oh HELL no!

I would hide it somewhere so DH can't just give it back to him. Take it to a neighbors house (if you are friends with them) and have them hide it even!

I can't get over the fact that a CHILD had the balls to say something like that to an adult.

I can't believe your boys sat there and laughed along with the little jerk.

Quite frankly. If any kid told me to lick their butt hole, their teeth would end up strung in a permanent grin on a chain around their neck.

Your H is a jerk, supporting this little shit by telling you he was just joking. Turn it around on him, ask him if you said the same thing to his precious, little children and said "just joking", would he take it that way? Or would he freak out on you??

I have teenage boys whose sense of humor is not exactly refined and whimsical these days. We have a dinner table conversation standard that everyone is happy to enforce
and all adhere to 95percent of the time. Since the kids are mine it falls to
me to meter out punishment for transgressions.

My punishment for something so vile would be swift and harsh.
I would also be mortified if my sons said something similar
to my husband. How can your dh maintain.this wilfully blind
attitude? He needs to wake up- i don't think talking is going to help,
him to ss or you to him. What's needed are actions.

I don't know your back story but things have to change
in major ways in your house. Good luck! Assert your position
and give them all hell. They deserve it.

oh hell no! it would take every ounce of will power I would ever have in my lifetime, to not smack the crap out of a kid that said that to me. HELL FUCKING NO!

Totally disrespectful! And the words, That little shit! come to mind.

And if SO reacted the way your DH reacted I would simply grab two luggage and pack his shit and SD shit up and have SD wait for him at the door. That is how serious disrespect is treated in my home. You want to allow your child to disrespect me, then I won't allow your child in my home.

And for those that say, well its SO's home too, nope it won't be after that reaction.

Ah the joys of stupid boys... Take the power cord for his game station and take scissors and cut it up into 3" pieces. NO ONE calls ANY adult a name like that. And when DH would come home I would tell him if name calling is OK I will in future refer to him as "My very own sister fuc*er". Grrr!

I'd be livid. If DH told me he was joking - i'd be dropping off the little asshole at his Momma's. He would never be left alone with me again. Don't forget extra chores for the ones who thought it was funny.

In my house that's bye bye console, tv and anything else you might love.

I wouldn't smash it. I'd SELL the bloody thing for $20 and go buy a bottle of wine. May the fleas of a thousand camels infest that little a-hole's private region.

I hope your DH didn't hand the console back to SS. That right there would just strip ANY credibility you have in the house, trust me.

My DH would end run me with his SK's - then they had even less respect for me than they did going into the relationship. They knew I could huff and puff all I wanted, but Daddy would save them. And until I bitch-slapped DH silly (figuratively, not literally, although I was tempted a few times), the SK's knew Daddy would save them regardless of their behaviors.

Also, DH needs to have SK apologize. I know it will be the most insincere words you've ever heard, but still. If DH is going to leave you as the "authority figure" then you need to maintain authority. What you say goes, and as one of the other posters said, if DH disagrees that's between you and him, later, in private.

What SK said was offensive, whether meant in jest or not. I'm not kidding when I say my kid would eat soap if he said that to me or any other adult, I don't care if he's in his teens or not.

p.s. my dad would have slapped my mouth for saying something like that. Shoot, he would have slapped me upside the head if he even THOUGHT I was thinking of saying something like that.

What a little shit. What a shitty DH to defend the stupid kid. Adults (who are NOT the SM!) don't like kids "joking" like that. Why should YOU have to put up with it?

Joke or not, no child should speak to an adult like that. What a little wanker! Take his precious game station and don't give it back until he learns some respect. Your DH needs a talking to as well if he thinks it's ok for his kid to talk to his wife that way. He needs to be made an example of in front of all the other children. They all need to see that outward disrespect like that will not be tolerated, otherwise they may follow in his footsteps.