It's been a while, so hello all. I've had a very good month. XDH is completely gone. It took me a few weeks to get all evidence of him and his spawn out of my house but I did it. We are all much happier. His name isn't even mentioned around our house any more. I had to block him, his entire family, and all of his friends from fb, my phone, and emailing me but it only took about 45 minutes or so. I've been remodeling my house, letting the kids have their ideas incorporated so we all feel like this our home, not our prison. I've been spending my daddy weekends with some old friends that I grew up with up. It's been wonderful reconnecting with these people. It's almost as if time hasn't past at all even though I haven't seen them in over 17 years.
One in particular, lets call him Boots. It's odd how you can start spending time with someone and getting to know them all over again yet feel so completely comfortable around them. We're both starting our lives over, and it's nice to be able to lean on someone who knows who you are, what you've done, what you're going through and not judge you for your past. I don't know if it will ever be more than a friendship, but I really do cherrish this friendship right now.
I hope all of you are doing well also. God bless friends.