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Submitted by libra2libra83 on Wed, 01/28/2015 - 4:57pm

Yesterday, SO and I obtained a lawyer in regards to getting SD's SSN, since BM is still refusing to give it to him. While we are at it, SO figured he would get a few things changed from the original order, such as being able to claim SD every other year on taxes. As of now, BM claims every year even though SO has SD 50% of the time and pays child support. He is also going to get my name off of their custody order. As of now, BM has it that I can not be left alone with SD. Yet she can leave SD with every Tom, Dick, or Harry that she feels like leaving SD with.

I am seriously dreading the yelling and the phone calls that will happen next week.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Wed, 01/28/2015 - 5:02pm

"I am seriously dreading the yelling and the phone calls that will happen next week."

I imagine your lawyer would advise you to not communicate with her unless it directly pertains to the child. She can call and scream, leave nasty texts, emails, etc. It doesn't mean you or SO have to engage her. To quote a phrase often said here, "Ignore the whore."

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Submitted by Pokeyketchum on Wed, 01/28/2015 - 6:17pm

It was really nerve wracking the first time DH took BM to court but the results were glorious! Good luck!! Stay strong!

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Submitted by libra2libra83 on Wed, 01/28/2015 - 6:27pm

Thanks for the luck! This is the 3rd time we have had to take her to court. This is the first time with a lawyer. We really liked this guy. He was very honest with us. Here is hoping this is easy.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Wed, 01/28/2015 - 7:21pm

Don't let her get to you. And remember the only reason she will have a meltdown or seven is because she is not so sure she will win this round.

If you approach it as a re-visiting the CO and getting it tweaked to reflect where you all are now it should be easy peasy... despite BMs thoughts to the contrary.

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Submitted by libra2libra83 on Wed, 01/28/2015 - 8:43pm

I was pissed! He was advised by the mediator to give it to her because she was not backing down, and at the time we didn't have a lawyer. Our lawyer now said it should be no problem getting me off the order, since we are now engaged, BM never had the stipulation about her, and SO should be able to use anyone he trusts.

I really do like the lawyer.

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Submitted by libra2libra83 on Wed, 01/28/2015 - 9:32pm

We need to go for a few other things as well. Our ss office refuses to give SO SD's card or number without BM being present, or having SD's number. SO has never been able to claim SD, and they were never married. BM is also very parinoid about everthing. She refuses to let the doctors or school have the number. It is a crappy situation. Plus we need to change a few items as well.