Together quite a long time, together 2 years before we married. We had both been married before. We would have been good just going along as we were, but my kids wanted us to get married and we didn't hate the idea. Now we're glad we did it. Things have gotten much better as the years have gone by. I don't hate his kids as much as I used to but I guess that's because we don't see them as much as we used to.

Married little over 3 yrs.

Together little over a year prior to.

I was married once before. No kids. Left due to abusive ex. DH never married. SD was an oops pregnancy due to BM's (failed) attempt to trap DH into commitment.

BM's crazy escalated unbelievably right before and after our wedding. It has since been up and down, but she pretty much ignored me when we were just dating (fine by me). Relationship with SD has gotten worse, but that is more an age thing.

I would rate it at about a 5. Things are not great right now. All of the emotional and financial strain of the last 3 years has caught up with us. We are both stressed and unhealthy. DH is smoking again. There is practically no physical relationship between us. Add in DH quitting his job to open his own business 4 months into our marriage, trouble with in-laws, me losing my job last year, our inability to conceive an "ours" baby - we are both at the breaking point.

Honestly, not sure anymore why we got married. I just wanted someone I loved and enjoyed being around to share my life. I was fine with dating. DH promised me that we would have twice the money and half the responsibility once we merged households and he pushed for the marriage. Instead, I became the live in maid, nanny, and family breadwinner. So, in reality, it is half the money, twice the responsibility. In hindsight, I think DH wanted the "idea" of the perfect family that he had always dreamed of.

How long have you been married? 13.5 years

How long were you and your spouse together before getting married? about 2 years

Have you been married before? NO

Have things gotten worse or better with the skids/BM since being married? Better...skids aged out. No need for BM to contact us EVER. Plus, my DH had rock solid boundaries with BM from almost the beginning.

How would you rate your marriage? We have our ups and downs but a lot more ups in the past three or so years

Why did you get married? We loved each other. We did push our date up because 9/11 happened and we decided that we'd rather get married at the JOP than wait longer to do a "proper" wedding. Tomorrow is never promised.

We've been married for 4 years. We were together for 8 years before we got married. This is my first marriage but it's DH's 2nd (I guess that's the reason we were engaged so long before we got married lol). Things are pretty much the same with the skids and BM since marriage. (they're still jerks..no worse no better lol) We, like many couples, have our ups and downs, but all in all I'd say we have a good marriage. I married DH because despite the way his kids and ex wife are, he is a wonderful man, father, provider, he's my best friend and I love him to pieces

We've been married almost three years.

We were together a year and a half before that.

I was married once before, to my son's father, for 5 years. That ended quick when I found out he had a little girlfriend (18 years old) on the side. Nope!

Things got significantly worse after we got married. BM pretty much left us alone before. She amped up the PAS when she found out we were engaged, and really went crazy as our wedding approached. She successfully PASed the younger child completely out of our lives 14 months after our wedding, and the older one 13 months after that. Things have been better without her influence present in our everyday life.

I would give our marriage a 9 1/2, simply because no one is perfect. But I'd give DH himself a 10.

Why did we get married? He was the one for me and I was the one for him. We'd both been through Hell and were ready to be happy. Regardless of all the step shit, we've always been a team.

How long have you been married? A little over 1 year

How long were you and your spouse together before getting married? 2 years

Have you been married before? Yes

Have things gotten worse or better with the skids/BM since being married? Better because I waited until they moved away before marrying him.

How would you rate your marriage? 10/10. I've never been happier

Why did you get married? My heart was so all in with DH but my head was never on the same page because of my past experiences with relationships. Our whole dating life it was my heart vs my head. Eventually, I listened to my heart instead my head convincing me that this was not a good move. I married him and it was the greatest thing I've ever done. It was the right decision. HE works hard for us. He is an adoring husband. He's top notch and has not waivered in that since we were married.

How long have you been married? - 6+ years

How long were you and your spouse together before getting married? - 5 months, almost 'to the day' we met.

Have you been married before? - yes. ugh. why'd u hafta bring that up?

Have things gotten worse or better with the skids/BM since being married? - better w/ oss and mss, worse w/ yss. better/worse w/ dumbass, she got worse and it's better for me she rarely contacts them, but worse for yss.

How would you rate your marriage? - absofreakinglutely wonderful.

Why did you get married? - pull out all the cliche's }:) he's my best friend. my soulmate. truly my other half. and i am just like my grandmother, she was married to my g-father for 3 years when he died (21 years ago). there will never be another for her. her eyes light up when she mentions him. he still holds her heart in his hands. i take after her more than i take after either of my parents. my wonderful, amazing dh will hold my heart forever. <3

How long have you been married?
9.5 years

How long were you and your spouse together before getting married
3.5 years

Have you been married before?
Yes

Have things gotten worse or better with the skids/BM since being married?
They got worse but now it's almost perfect because I haven't seen them in years

How would you rate your marriage?
9.5 (I'm taking off points because he needs to have ESPN on in the car)

Why did you get married?
We love each other and are committed to our life together.

How long have you been married? 7.5 years

How long were you and your spouse together before getting married? 1.5 years

Have you been married before? Yes. Married at 19, divorced at 26. Single for 15 years before meeting H.

Have things gotten worse or better with the skids/BM since being married? Uberskank and skid amped up the crazy when we announced we were engaged, it became worse after we married.

How would you rate your marriage? On a scale of 1 to 10....right now I'd give it a 6, however we're in counseling right now.

Why did you get married? Because I allowed H to manipulate me. There was a ton of crazy going on and he was in the middle of a custody battle. I suggested postponing it, he countered with if we don't get married now than we never will. I stupidly agreed to get married even though I had huge reservations.

How long have you been married? 5 1/2 years

How long were you and your spouse together before getting married? 4 1/2 years ( we have been together 10 years on Valentines Day)

Have you been married before? Yes

Have things gotten worse or better with the skids/BM since being married? It's the same

How would you rate your marriage? Anywhere between a 7 and a 10 depending on the day LOL. But never below average.

Why did you get married?- He's my match. My best friend and my love. We raised our family together. The better question was WHY NOT get married so we did.