That would just piss me off, since you've told her how to dispose of them.

My SD was not told by BM to wrap them before putting them in the trash so DH and I told her and she always did after that. We told her, "Nobody wants to see that. Wrap it up." To me, it's common sense, I don't remember ever having to be told. Of course, my SD lacks common sense but I'm surprised BM never said anything to her about it.

And yes, your DH can handle it now.

Seems to be kind of common on this board but I don't know why. Some kind of COD rebellion or something?

I did the same thing with SD 6 months ago. BM sent us an email that SD had started. DH and I talked to her. Okay, mostly me but we talked to her. Explained everything. Couple of months later, found exactly what you did in our family bathroom-we only have one as well. Explained everything again. Last month, found blood-soaked underwear. Then found out bad was also soaked. Cleaned everything. Bought more supplies(nighttime ones). Explained everything again. Told DH - NO MORE. It is unacceptable. Made it very clear if I find one more unwrapped item or an accident that isn't reported, SD is in big trouble. I mean grounded for the entire weekend trouble. There is no excuse for this kind of behavior. I am disengaged from skids but it is my house and I won't allow it.

I'd don a pair of rubber gloves and then put the waste in her room, or in some other place where she's likely to be at least slightly grossed out by the sight, and will have to do something about it. In her school back pack? And remind her that she knows better. "Get rid of these properly, please. I have explained to you how to do it, and will be happy to review the procedure if you need to hear it again."

I once got stuck with skid, 20 at the time, for an entire two weeks while his father was out of town dealing with an emergency. The little bastard spent the entire two weeks shitting up my main toilet. There was crap on the seat and inside and outside the bowl. I asked him twice to clean it, put out brushes and cleaning stuff ... nothing I finally gave up and used the other bathroom. His Dad had a little chat with him when he returned.

It's amazing how common this type of disgusting behavior is among skids. I think it's a hostile, passive-aggressive message, and a way of rubbing your nose in it, as it were. It's the same as any other kind of disrespect. Handle it accordingly. If skid doesn't respond to your efforts to get it to stop, it's Dad's job. He's clearly squeamish about the whole thing, but too bad. Let him know that if he can't get through to his daughter, you'll be discussing clots with him. That should snap him right into shape.

At least your SD puts the pads in the garbage can.

The skid in my life, after being completely hygienic for two years after getting her period, decided to put the used pads in with her laundry. Still attached to her underpants. Not changing her pads enough, resulting in menstrual blood stained pants. Refused to wear a pad to bed, resulting in the mattress and two sets of sheets being ruined.

But that's not the worst of it. She started SMEARING....yes....SMEARING menstrual blood all over the bathroom. On the toilet, the sink, the counters and the wall. Everywhere.

I spoke to skid. Refused to clean up the mess. I spoke to H. He would clean up the mess but not speak to skid. I nagged H about the mess every time. He finally walked into the bathroom after her and went nuts. Yelled. No changes in her behavior.

Until.

One day I had enough. She had two friends visiting. She was just in the bathroom. I went in right after her and there was another disgusting mess. I lost it. I stomped into her room, threw open the door and step on a t-shirt of hers. I bent over, picked it up, walked to the kitchen to grab cleaner and stomped back into the bathroom and starting cleaning up the bathroom with the cleaner and the shirt. She grabs the shirt out of my hand and asked me what I was doing.

I turned to her and said something to the effect (this is years ago so I only remember the gist) "I am done. I have asked and I have been patient. No more. Going forward, if you leave another disgusting mess in the bathroom, I'm going to use YOUR clothes to clean it up. Do you understand?"

She turned and ran into the kitchen, grabbed paper towels and the cleaner out of my hands. And cleaned her mess in the bathroom. Then asked if she could do a load of laundry. I went back into the bathroom and pointed out all of the places she missed and had her redo them. Once the bathroom was clean I let her was a load of laundry.

This only happened one more time. I don't think she believed my threat. I found another mess, I walked into her room without knocking, grabbed the first article of clothing I saw and headed for the bathroom. She ran past me, grabbed cleaner and towels and ran into the bathroom ahead of me and cleaned it.

That was the last time I dealt with her mess.

My suggestion. Grab the garbage can, dump the disgusting mess on her bed and tell her you'll stop, when she stops. You've explained how to dispose of them properly and she's ignoring it and behaving like a spoiled little shit. So treat her like one.

Take pictures of it and put it on facebook - then tag all her friends and family and let them know it's hers. If you don't have facebook, upload it to your computer and email it to everyone.

Sometimes these rotten toxic monsters need to have the living shit embarrassed out of them.

Be great if we could get a sandwich board made up saying "I leave my dirty pads for others to clean" and make them wear it everywhere in public.

I don't know about this one. I think it's DH's issue to parent, but LaMare's problem to deal with because she's the one 'seeing' it. I don't know her DH nor how deliberately blind he may be...

I'd suggest first dealing with it like I would a roommate.

Privately remind her a couple of times as soon as you see it and have her tidy it up right away. Third time say: I've asked, you've agreed, but it's not happening. I don't like it and don't want to see it again. If you do it again, I'm going to assume it's on purpose to cause me grief. Is that how you want our home life to go? I'd rather we keep it nice at home.

Now, ok... sometimes teens forget things. So once per year or something, ok... But if she's doing it on purpose, come down on her severely. Maybe something like... at dinner, shake out the garbage can onto her empty plate. That way everyone can appreciate what she's been doing, not just you? After everyone has gagged a bit, she can apologize and go clean everything up. Then she can join you for dinner.