OMG
SO.and SD17 have been out ALL day at a swimming competition. I get a text this eve saying they were going to A+E because SD had hurt her back. Im pointed out it was probably a muscle spasm so not to waste A+E time and come home.
They arrived home 830pm, ate their dinner and then SO 'helped' SD into the bath.
I could hear them chatting away ( i was quietly seething as i had had barely any acknowledgment that i existed all day). Eventually SO came downstaires and I asked if SD eas in the bath. He said yes. I asked were you talking to her while she was in the bath again he said yes.
I pointed out i didnt think it was appropriate to talk to a 17yo while she was bathing and his response was ... 'its ok she was behind the shower curtain'
Now is it me or is this just plain wrong???
I would have been mortified if my dad had done that. SD was over the moon daddy was talking with her. Mind you thats because he wasnt talking to me!!
There are some serious boundary issues i have with this but SO doesnt see it the same way.
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Thank you sweet pea. For a
Thank you sweet pea.
For a long time i have thought they have a strange relationship.
SD is very dependent on daddy. To the point where i have asked him how often do you wipe.her a**e??
He just can see he is not helping her at all, yet with his other daughters a totally different story!
The shower curtain is plain
The shower curtain is plain plastic not white or patterned and he helped her get in and out the bath too. Now i know she has hurt her back tonight but even so i would have done it by myself rather than have my dad help me
So what was so important that
So what was so important that he needed to chat with her when he had been with her all day?
He can say whatever he wants
He can say whatever he wants to justify handling her while she was undressed but cps is going to look at this in plain black and white. She was naked, he was there with her for a good period time, and stayed even longer after he was no longer needed to get in/out...maybe you should casually bring up men bathing their teen daughters in front of one of his friends and he can see how they react. Hopefully he will be embarrassed and realize it's not appropriate behavior.
Okay thank you every one. Yes
Okay thank you every one.
Yes its weird and i am grossed out about it and many of you may think im wrong but i know he is not fu++ing his daughter as MIzfoxie has stated. Yes i would be out of here if i thought that.
SD has an unhealthy attachment to her father but he isnt like that. SD just wants the attention given to her and NOT me. And my SO is stupid enough to fall for her tricks.
Her back cant have been that bad as she has gone off to the swimming comp again today!
Something is wrong with this
Something is wrong with this guy. You can blame SD as much as a like, but a normal man doesn't do the things you described. Just because he may not be having sex with his daughter, doesn mean his interactions with her aren't sick.
The sicko may not have crossed the pedophile line (yet) , but ye sure as hell is having a grand old time tap dancing all around it. He knows what he's doing. He's playing stupid so that you won't call him out on his sick behavior.
I bet if CPS heard ahout this, the creep would be in hot water.
rattles, please don't be
rattles, please don't be offended, but your husband also seems to have an unhealthy attachment to his daughter. Its not all her. He's the adult in the bathroom with him helping her and talking to her while she's buck ass naked. She's not tricking him into anything. He's an adult and knows exactly what's he doing. . He's knows she naked. Your giving him a free pass, making excuses for him
and blaming her.
Does she help him with his bathing or see him naked?
This incident is only what you know about. What goes on when your not around?
Wow i opened up a whole can
Wow i opened up a whole can of worms with you lot. I actually feel quite sick listening to you all.
Yes what SO did was highly inappropriate and ive called him on it. He does NOT and never has abused SD. Their relationship is he bends over backwards to do absolutley everything for her, she is a lazy cow, never lifts a finger. If she cant get daddy to do it she makes her sisters.
The issue is all about what she wants she gets, and she wants daddies attention 24/7
If i thought for one moment that was anything sexual going on 1) I would leave 2) I would report it.
None of you know me,SO or SD and I deal with sexual abuse cases through work. Thank you dtzybld for not jumping to conclusions. My SO is just plain stupid and scared to set boundaries with his daughter in fear of her not wanting to live with him. He feels guilty because he caused the breakdown of his first marriage.
He doesnt deserve to be branded with sexual abuser. He is just dumb!!