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First Post of the New Year

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Been absent from ST for a bit due to some unfortunate circumstances. For starters my car broke down and had to be taken to the shop. It took the mechanics forever to figure out what the problem was so I had to use DW’s car all week which meant I had to provide taxi service for everyone including one of DW’s friends who has MS (Multiple Sclerosis). I’ll talk about him in a minute.

In other news, a close friend of ours died. I only knew him as long as I have known DW but DW has known him for years. DW is extremely distraught. I admit, that as I write this, I feel my own tears well up. His kids are the same ages as BS and BD and we would often meet up for birthdays and backyard BBQs. Our kids would play together while we would sit, drink, laugh and just enjoy each others company. I didn’t know him as well as DW did, and if I am deeply saddened at his passing, I can only imagine what DW is going through. DW was asked by her deceased friend’s wife if she would like to speak at the funeral. DW wrote a little something, but on the day of the funeral, she just broke down and couldn’t. DW’s friend (the one with MS) came in from out of town for the funeral and we put him up for a while. He’s a good guy but his condition is worsening with each passing year. He can still walk but anything that requires fine motor skills is becoming difficult for him. For instance, he can’t button his shirts or tie his shoe-laces. In addition, he didn’t have appropriate clothes for our weather so I had to take him shopping at Walmarts so he could buy himself a jacket at least. I didn’t mind chauffeuring him and looking after him, but with us only having one car at our disposal, my time has been severely taxed. Every day this week I have been arriving to work late and leaving early. That is why I am here at work on a Saturday trying to catch up.

*Big Sigh*

That being said, here are a few highlights that occurred over the holidays:

  • Watched “Elf” with BS and BD. The movie has new meaning for me now since Daizyduke pointed out to me that Will Farrel’s character reminds her of SS. When that scene came on with Buddy lying in bed with his legs sticking out past the bed frame calling out for his Dad to come tuck him in, I just about split my sides laughing. BS and BD laughed too. I think I found our new holiday tradition.
  • I put FIL in his place. When the subject of SS’s academic performance came up, FIL spouted out his usual bullcrap about how “it isn’t necessary” to do well in high school to have a successful life, I looked at him straight in the face and said “You know what? When SS fails out of HS, I’ll have him come live with you since you seem to know the secret to doing well in life with no high school education.” Oh boy, FIL shut-up real quick!
  • The Christmas “mad dash” between the households was pretty relaxed this year. This largely because I told DW well ahead of time that I am not running on anyone’s schedule but my own. Donkeykong didn’t seem to care about pick-ups and drop-offs being on time so I saw no reason why I should. Seriously, this guy was was either two hours late or two hours early. So I saw no need respect the CO (especially after DW’s last drunk escapade). It wouldn’t have made a difference anyways, since SS spent most of the holidays sleeping or in a video-game fugue state. Last time I picked him up, (which was last Sunday), his Dad had to wake him. He came into the car, said “Hi” then closed his eyes and slept for the whole drive home. Once home, he just barricaded himself in his room to either sleep or binge on video games.
  • Despite my protestations, SS got his wish and got a PS3 for Christmas - well sort of. DW said no at first but buckled when SS batted his eyelashes and said he was willing to pay half of it. DW asked me, if I would pitch in for the other half. I laughed and said “You already know my position on this” and walked away. DW told me afterwards that she had warned SS that should she come home and catch him playing on it when he should be doing his homework, she will take it away. Once again, I laughed.
  • SS got some more cash for Christmas and told DW that he wanted to pay for the other half of the PS3. DW asked why. SS replied. “That way, it is rightfully mine and no one can take it away”. DW mentioned this to me and I said “Sure, let him pay for the other half. The PS3 will be rightfully his, but I still pay the electrical bills and I know which circuit breakers to pull.”
  • We had a New Year’s Eve celebration at our house. DW and I busted our tails to get the house cleaned and ready for the party. Her in-laws called the day before to ask when they should come. Without thinking or conferring with me, DW says “Why don’t you come over for supper and spend the night here?”. In-laws accept the offer. DW tells me and I reply “That’s great DW, but you do realize that A) The guest room and SS’s room have to be cleaned and neither have been touched in 6 months and Dirol I had already done all the grocery shopping”. DW says she’ll take care of all that, and I say fine. Unfortunately for DW, she never realized the state of SS’s room. The kid had a collection of empty coke cans, candy wrappers and other junk,….I have been after DW to get her to get SS to clean his room but to SS “Cleaning” his room means; making his bed and shoving crap underneath the bed. DW worked into the wee hours of the night on the 30th trying to tidy SS’s room before she broke down and said she needs my help. The room was in a serious need of an overhaul. I tell her that the person who should be helping her clean SS’s room is *dumroll* SS! Oh how convenient that he is not here and we will only see him after New Year’s. So I refuse. DW starts crying saying that she’ll take me out to see “The Hobbit” and that she promises she’ll “stay on top” of SS to keep his room tidy if I help. I couldn’t say no to that. So I help out. I even fix one of the shelves.
  • BS bought me, DW, SS and BD each a Christmas gift. He actually took money out of his piggy bank and bought something from a charity auction that his school was having. No one put him up to that and we still don’t know why he did it but DW and I were touched. SS on the other hand didn’t buy anybody anything. Well actually DW bought me some shot glasses and said it was from SS.
  • Speaking of gifts, DW and I had a bit of an argument in the middle of the store over getting Vicky (SS’s girlfriend) a Christmas gift. DW and I were shopping and we came upon a necklace that caught her eye. She immediately said that this would be a perfect gift for Vicky (SS’s girlfriend). I told her that it would not bode well for SS if DW buys SS’s girlfriend a gift and SS gets her nothing. DW insisted. I just shook my head and said “How would you feel if my parents gave you a lavish gift for Christmas and I gave you nothing?”. DW didn’t see my point and buys the necklace anyways.
  • For the majority of the time SS was with us, SS just stayed in his room or sat on the couch and watched TV. Several times he was left alone for lunch and supper. Now I have refused to buy Nutella for over two months now. Every time DW puts it on the grocery list, I ignore it. Without Nutella, SS is at an absolute loss. He will not fix himself anything to eat unless it involves Nutella or DW makes it for him. As a result, SS has been complaining of feeling weak and is sleeping constantly. Now before anyone says “it’s normal that teens need lots of sleep”, I don’t think 14 hours of sleep per day is normal for anyone. Yes, that is how much he has been sleeping. He has gotten paler and skinnier over the holidays (I didn’t think that was possible). Twice he refused to eat his supper entirely. I told DW that this is not normal. Seriously, if this trend continues, I am going to start calling SS “Jack Skellington”.
  • Comments

    Drac0's picture

    Thanks! I'm burned at the moment but I'm okay. I just need a stiff drink and the chance to sleep for 14 hours like SS does.

    SourGrapes's picture

    I'm relatively new here so I don't know the background story to most of this, but I loved reading this blog post! It was riveting! And I lol'ed about the new nickname for SS!

    Drac0's picture

    Welcome to ST!

    I can be quite verbose, so in case you don't get a chance to read my previous blogs. I'm a stepfather to a fifteen-year-old coddled teen who cries on a weekly basis and is taller than me (He's about 6 feet tall).

    DW, the love of my life, is a Disney parent who is "trying" to be more firm with him but it is hard for her because she is emotionally enmeshed with her son.

    Together DW and I have had BS(5) and BD(2). I call them "Scrounger" and "Cooler King" because child locks and child safety devices do not work with them. Both have managed to escape their confines and tried to make a break for it before we stopped them.

    SS's father is a negligent prick who is still trying to get revenge for winning majority custody several years ago. We call him "Donkeykong" for his passion for video games and beating his chest whenever DW and him get into a fight. These fights are almost always over the CO which was written in very vague terms.